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#81
Recovery Journals / Re: the next step
Last post by sanmagic7 - December 25, 2025, 01:44:01 PMjust got back from a walk - feels good to be able to do that again. i have to get some in during the next few days, cuz on mon. i'm getting my 2 final vaccines, and i know i'll be laid up for at least a week, if not more. still, it feels so good to be able to sleep again. dang, what a difference it makes.
happy holidays. carry on.
happy holidays. carry on.
#82
Recovery Journals / Re: The tipping point…
Last post by Desert Flower - December 25, 2025, 01:36:07 PMI'm so happy for you spending such a nice time with your kids. Enjoy!
#83
Recovery Journals / Re: The tipping point…
Last post by sanmagic7 - December 25, 2025, 01:02:33 PMand i thank you right back, chart. hope your holidays are peaceful and joyful, and so glad to hear how well you're doing w/ your kids. wonderful. love and hugs
#84
Recovery Journals / Re: Marcine’s journaling forwa...
Last post by sanmagic7 - December 25, 2025, 12:59:08 PMyeah, marcine, what a messed up idea of love we got. i can also add love was staying, absorbing, enduring all the crapola that was sent my way until i broke in new and different ways. i hear you. it's been so messed up. as DF said, none of that was love. and thank the stars we are learning differently, acting and saying differently, or at least beginning to do so. we'll get there. infinitely grateful you're here, too. love and hugs
#85
Recovery Journals / Re: Marcine’s journaling forwa...
Last post by SenseOrgan - December 25, 2025, 11:09:07 AMFew words come up, but tears do. It resonates. This comes from a deep place. Without knowing the details of your journey, I deeply respect, honor and appreciate you being here. 
#86
Family / Re: Left out
Last post by Gromit - December 25, 2025, 07:58:12 AMBelow is what I did write, after some thought, and drafts, and it does not identify anyone:
I appreciate that your experience is very different to mine. My husband did not understand what my family was like until he saw it firsthand. I have no idea what you have been told, nobody has ever spoken to me about it. But, as you say, life is short, it is too short to be in an abusive relationship which impacts on your health, especially, when you are a parent.
My relationships with my children shines a light on what I experienced. My daughter asks me things, which I remember wondering about when I was a child, but I had nobody to ask. Obviously, only having a parent who I did not want to emulate I had no template to follow, and I have made mistakes, but my children feel safe enough to tell me, and give me the chance to make amends. I have spent a lifetime grieving a mother, I did not have, and a father who was unable to change things, he used to say he had tried everything over the years, nothing worked. He died in 2020, having missed out on so much.
Sorry, your message stirred up so much for me, I needed to say something.
Sharing because it seemed my 'life is short' response might be misconstrued.
I deliberately waited to respond to the email so that I could respond rather than react.
Time and distance helps as does learning from everyone else who shares their experience on here and in other support groups.
G
I appreciate that your experience is very different to mine. My husband did not understand what my family was like until he saw it firsthand. I have no idea what you have been told, nobody has ever spoken to me about it. But, as you say, life is short, it is too short to be in an abusive relationship which impacts on your health, especially, when you are a parent.
My relationships with my children shines a light on what I experienced. My daughter asks me things, which I remember wondering about when I was a child, but I had nobody to ask. Obviously, only having a parent who I did not want to emulate I had no template to follow, and I have made mistakes, but my children feel safe enough to tell me, and give me the chance to make amends. I have spent a lifetime grieving a mother, I did not have, and a father who was unable to change things, he used to say he had tried everything over the years, nothing worked. He died in 2020, having missed out on so much.
Sorry, your message stirred up so much for me, I needed to say something.
Sharing because it seemed my 'life is short' response might be misconstrued.
I deliberately waited to respond to the email so that I could respond rather than react.
Time and distance helps as does learning from everyone else who shares their experience on here and in other support groups.
G
#87
Family / Re: Left out
Last post by TheBigBlue - December 25, 2025, 04:20:14 AMThat sounds really unsettling and confusing, especially after so many years of distance. You're not wrong for feeling conflicted or for protecting yourself. I'm glad you shared this here.
(If that's ok)
(If that's ok)
#88
Recovery Journals / Re: The tipping point…
Last post by TheBigBlue - December 25, 2025, 04:10:48 AM
#89
Other / Re: Our Healing Porch Part 8
Last post by Blueberry - December 25, 2025, 01:52:14 AMQuote from: Blueberry on December 03, 2025, 02:55:19 PMFinally come to join you on the porch, san and everybody. I'm curled in a chair covered in warm wool blankets watching the fire and dozing off. It feels easier to sit and do nothing but here on the Porch than at home.
Ditto today tho it's possible nobody else is around. Actually I can sense some shadowy but safe forms creeping up to sit around a campfire that might have been started a day or two ago by Chart or a year or two ago by woodsgnome. It seems nobody wants to reveal themselves which is fine. And so far no interest in seasonal deco which is also fine.
This place is magic tho so it wouldn't be a problem for anybody to set up Christmassy stuff - there's plenty of space for all needs.
#90
General Discussion / Re: Lonely at Christmas
Last post by Blueberry - December 25, 2025, 01:38:13 AMP.S. If you do a search for Christmas on the forum you'll find at least two threads on the topic where people have added posts this year. Maybe some old threads too, which might help idk. Then there's the Healing Porch threads, an imaginary space where some forum members undoubtedly spend Christmas.