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#81

Recovery Journals / Re: Activating myself

Last post by HannahOne - February 19, 2026, 01:35:45 AM

Hooray for activation! 
I've recently joined a gym while doing PT and it is making a big difference. Being grounded in the here and now, the body, while music plays, and with others in the same space. Here's to forty days of active living!

#82

Recovery Journals / Re: Papa Coco's Recovery Journ...

Last post by HannahOne - February 19, 2026, 01:34:12 AM

I've been following your posts and so glad to read both sides of the coin you're carrying PapaCoco. The loneliness in all its layers and complexity, and also the connections, secure, identity-giving, worth living for. Thank you for posting on the forum.

#83

Recovery Journals / Re: Papa Coco's Recovery Journ...

Last post by Papa Coco - February 19, 2026, 12:08:29 AM

Thanks! You are all giving me great hugs and some really good conversation.

This is me hugging you all back:           

I agree with everything you all wrote. I really liked reading in TheBigBlue's response about how loneliness has many types, and that the type of loneliness that haunts me is mostly caused by feeling unsafe around people. I feel alone, even when I'm sitting face to face with someone I don't trust.



When I joined this forum I was on my own death row. I was so close to ending my own life that I found this forum out of desperation. When the forum guided me to create a name for myself, I chose Papa Coco because that's what my wife, kids and grandkids call me, and they were the very reason I didn't want to sink any lower. I wanted to live for them. So I named myself Papa Coco to remind me every single day of why it was important that I connect with others who understand life the way I do. Birds of a feather, as it were.

This forum Itself isn't the magic, it's the people who subscribe to it that do the magic.

I feel a lot better today. I'm feeling like writing on the forum today, and I'm grateful to have this community of beautiful souls to share that with. Some days I just can't get my head to formulate words, but today, I'm feeling a bit better.

Thanks for helping to fix the loneliness I struggle with. I DO trust the people here. I DO trust my wife, kids and grandkids. To heck with the rest of the world. I have my friends here.

Much love to everyone.
PC

#84

Recovery Journals / Re: Activating myself

Last post by Blueberry - February 18, 2026, 09:38:54 PM

I agree that with dissociation activation is so much a huge huge key.

Thanks for the validation! I hadn't even thought of that, in so many words. (Thank you for giving me words for what's going on within me.)

I wonder if singing is an activator for you?

If I were to sing, even just a line or two or a snatch of something, that would definitely be a form of activation. So would going to choir practice or even church. Singing is not easy atm, not sort of dropping into my lap sort of thing. Yesterday an exercise from voice lessons suddenly dropped into my mind, so that was something I suppose.

I'm not sure what your question means though. Are you wondering if I were to sing, if that would further activate me? I don't know about that, for the moment it would be putting the bar too high and in a way it would be kind of sneaky and likely to set off an inner child/teen making one of them feel coerced. I don't want to wake up anything like that atm.

#85

Recovery Journals / Re: Activating myself

Last post by Blueberry - February 18, 2026, 09:31:06 PM

But I have started.

Small things can be big. I hope that makes sense. 

It does, yes, thank you!

Somehow I didn't even realise that I put this on Recovery Journals! But that's good because I retain more of the "just for now, just for today, just for 24 hours" sorta thing. In my mind, it was more a thing for Lent rather than my doing an act of kindness to myself every day, which I have done in other years.

Now with trying to activate myself in some way daily, it feels like I'm adding something rather than restricting myself. Restricting myself feels triggering and is just not easy to do for a week never mind the whole of Lent.

#86

Therapy / Re: Body reactions and somatic...

Last post by LaylaDalal - February 18, 2026, 08:54:00 PM

Hi BB and NK,
Thank you so much for your responses and for the validation. Its good to read that you appreciate the integrative approach as well.
And also interesting to read NKs descriptions of dissociation during a session. It makes me think of how grateful I am by now to be sometimes co-conscious like that, so I can witness what another part is doing or saying. 2 years ago, I would just not remember everything. It reminds me of what change did indeed happen already...
So great that you NK, could let teenage NK take over willingly by sharing her needs. To me it feels like such moments are so incredibly prescious.

I also feel a lot of freeze state in a sense, like you, BB described, despite shaking and fainting. Its like it goes forth and back between flight-freeze-collapse, its such an insane mixture. But in this utter chaos, there are parts coming out (in a sense, cause they cant talk) who know all the truth. Its horrible but validating at the same time...

#87

Recovery Journals / Re: Activating myself

Last post by Armee - February 18, 2026, 08:27:13 PM

 

Welcome to a new journal and a promising new approach! I agree that with dissociation activation is so much a huge huge key. I wonder if singing is an activator for you?

#88

Recovery Journals / Re: the next step

Last post by Armee - February 18, 2026, 08:23:29 PM

 

I'll say more when I have the time to express my thoughts clearly. Or as clearly as I am able. But that love is your favorite thing...it says so much dear. 

Take care 

#89

Physical Issues / Re: Constantly t i r e d. Shou...

Last post by NarcKiddo - February 18, 2026, 06:08:30 PM

Whether or not you introduce coffee back into your life would depend in a large part on why you removed it from your life, I would think. From where I sit, not knowing that, my immediate reaction is that it may well be worth a try. But if you have reluctance to do so then it is worth exploring why that might be.

I personally find winter difficult at times. I dislike the long, dark days. But I don't personally find it causes fatigue - maybe if I am feeling low anyway it can reduce my motivation. However, it could be different for you. How have other winters been for you?

I am also used to high levels of physical activity. My levels used to be even higher because I need exercise to help regulate me. I exercise 6 days a week now instead of 7 and with slightly less intensity as I am better able to regulate myself now. Plus I have had some health issues to come back from that are holding me back a little. Personally I find hard exercise to be energising rather than tiring. If I start finding myself fatigued on a regular basis there is something else going on for me. It is worth considering your exercise in case you could be over-training.

I agree with Kizzie's suggestion that it might be worth seeing a doctor if you cannot pinpoint the cause yourself. Even if trauma is the main culprit there might be something else adding to the mix.

I hope you perk up soon.

#90

Recovery Journals / Re: Activating myself

Last post by SenseOrgan - February 18, 2026, 05:39:39 PM

But I have started.

Small things can be big. I hope that makes sense.