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#81
Recovery Journals / Re: the next step
Last post by SenseOrgan - January 28, 2026, 06:11:20 PMCongratulations San! I'm really happy for you that you found a match. And that you could let in the kindness. 
#82
Please Introduce Yourself Here / Re: Mostly out of the storm
Last post by Kizzie - January 28, 2026, 05:38:04 PMHi and a warm welcome to Out of the Storm Pelican Town! 
I am a fellow Canadian and share a lot of the interests you do. I love animals but sadly I am allergic - to cats especially - so watch a lot of cute animal videos.
One thing I remember Pete Walker (author, therapist and fellow survivor) saying about CPTSD is that we think and feel at quite a deep level which can be both a blessing and a curse. I agree and really it makes sense because when you've faced what we've all faced how could we be shallow? We're very aware of how much harm people can inflict and how that feels. I've always seen it as a kind of an existential crisis that non-survivors don't face which makes it hard to relate to them, make small talk in social situations, etc.
I hope you will find the community fits you quite well, we do tend to get things many (most?) non-survivors don't.
I am a fellow Canadian and share a lot of the interests you do. I love animals but sadly I am allergic - to cats especially - so watch a lot of cute animal videos.
One thing I remember Pete Walker (author, therapist and fellow survivor) saying about CPTSD is that we think and feel at quite a deep level which can be both a blessing and a curse. I agree and really it makes sense because when you've faced what we've all faced how could we be shallow? We're very aware of how much harm people can inflict and how that feels. I've always seen it as a kind of an existential crisis that non-survivors don't face which makes it hard to relate to them, make small talk in social situations, etc.
I hope you will find the community fits you quite well, we do tend to get things many (most?) non-survivors don't.
#83
General Discussion / Re: Me and my girlfriend (BPD+...
Last post by Kizzie - January 28, 2026, 05:21:48 PMHi LucasLu - Welcome to Out of the Storm. If I may I'd like to suggest that you make an introductory post here in the Introductions section? It would help members get an idea of your trauma history so we know why you developed Complex PTSD. It also gives us some important context for what is happening now in the present and why.
Thanks,
Kizzie
Forum Administrator
Thanks,
Kizzie
Forum Administrator
#84
General Discussion / Re: Autism or CPTSD?
Last post by Desert Flower - January 28, 2026, 04:01:57 PMThank you everyone who contributed to this thread. It is helping me to make sense of what I am right in the middle of.
#85
Recovery Journals / Re: Living As All of Me
Last post by TheBigBlue - January 28, 2026, 03:29:40 PM
#86
Recovery Journals / Re: Miscellaneous ramblings of...
Last post by Desert Flower - January 28, 2026, 03:20:30 PM
#87
Recovery Journals / Re: The tipping point…
Last post by Desert Flower - January 28, 2026, 03:17:57 PMI'm right here with you too Chart. Well done for all your hard work and recognising.
#88
Recovery Journals / Re: the next step
Last post by Desert Flower - January 28, 2026, 03:06:40 PMI'm really glad you found a safe and kind therapist, that is great! It's worth a lot imo. 
#89
Emotional Abuse / Re: grief
Last post by Desert Flower - January 28, 2026, 03:03:39 PMNo, it does not sound small at all em87 (apologies for calling you Saluki due to the ladybug), it sounds really bad. And I'm really sorry that happened to you. My heart goes out to you. Sending you lots of warmth and love and all that you need.
#90
Recovery Journals / Re: Living As All of Me
Last post by Chart - January 28, 2026, 12:49:15 PMQuote from: SenseOrgan on January 28, 2026, 11:43:52 AMMy position is that it only is when we are on board with it. It only works with an internal "yes" of the client, which may or may not follow that which is brought up. If it's an internal "no", that can be equally valid and worth while to explore. I think it's safe to lead with your intuition.I totally agree, only I would change "internal" to "explicit". For me, the whole idea of therapy is to simply find these limits and bring them into consciousness. The fact that so many of my reactions remain hidden from me indicates that their ultimate purpose is a secondary task to figure out. First I have to identify them, THEN I can work on changing them. There's definitely a place for a therapist to push some boundaries on occasion, in a non-violent fashion and with awareness on their part. Friends do the same thing for friends. It starts with soft and easy hints... then we can move forward depending on the realizations that come about. It doesn't matter tea or water, what matters is that the source for the decision is understood and fully conscious.