this family stuff can be the worst. just going thru more of the same because my bro dragged all my nc's back into my life. so, i'm now struggling with all the emotions, etc. that raised their nasty heads again. and this was all behind my back.
i feel for you, blueberry. at least i'm not face to face with them - i can't even imagine how upsetting that would be. your strength is shining like a star in a black hole. i quite agree with you that all the other fam. members will not change - i certainly know none of mine have. the safest route for me to is stay away. let them hack and and bite with each other - i just don't want to be part of it anymore.
interesting, your observation how sil only does this stuff to people she perceives as weaker. same here. that's why i see them as predators. what we can do is find our strength and get out of their line of sight. that's how i see it, anyway. big hug to you, and best with all this.
i feel for you, blueberry. at least i'm not face to face with them - i can't even imagine how upsetting that would be. your strength is shining like a star in a black hole. i quite agree with you that all the other fam. members will not change - i certainly know none of mine have. the safest route for me to is stay away. let them hack and and bite with each other - i just don't want to be part of it anymore.
interesting, your observation how sil only does this stuff to people she perceives as weaker. same here. that's why i see them as predators. what we can do is find our strength and get out of their line of sight. that's how i see it, anyway. big hug to you, and best with all this.