Eerie Anne's Journal

[Eireanne]

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[sanmagic7]

EA, i relate to not having a sense of self due to it being ignored or not allowed when i was growing up.  i also relate to fawning, and i think it's been discussed here a lot under the banner of people pleasing.  i have been one all my life, was trained to be that way and did it very well.  unfortunately, as you mentioned, i had to look at others to find some kind of form for myself.  looking back, well, it's quite depressing.  love and hugs

[Eireanne]

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[rainydiary]

I appreciate you sharing about your learning from Pete Walker's book.  It was a helpful tool for me.

[Eireanne]

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[Eireanne]

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[sanmagic7]

i totally relate to these last 2 paragraphs, EA.  sometimes it's very helpful to see it printed out, even after knowing all this is true.  love and hugs

[Eireanne]

i totally relate to these last 2 paragraphs, EA.  sometimes it's very helpful to see it printed out, even after knowing all this is true.  love and hugs

Agreed. 

[Moondance]

  Eireanne,

Hyper vigilance, shallow and incomplete breathing, constant adrenalization, armoring (meaning chronic muscle tightness) wear and tear from rushing and armoring, inability to be fully present relaxed and grounded in our bodies, sleep problems from being over activated, digestive disorders from a tightened
digestive tract, physiological damage from excessive self-medication with alcohol food or drugs.

Moreover, in cases of physical and sexual abuse our capacities to be physically comforted by touch are eliminated or compromised and in cases of verbal and emotional abuse our capacities to be comforted by eye and voice contact are undeveloped or seriously diminished.

Thank you for sharing these excerpts from Peter Walker's book.  I hadn't read this yet and gee it so resonates with me.

There are a lot of CPTSD symptoms I have not known what to call them but have experienced forever it seems.     For example armoring.  I have known and felt this in my body for years and have been unable to get rid of it and didn't know it had a name. 

Thank you Eireanne

[Eireanne]

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[Eireanne]

Moondance


There are a lot of CPTSD symptoms I have not known what to call them but have experienced forever it seems.     For example armoring.  I have known and felt this in my body for years and have been unable to get rid of it and didn't know it had a name. 

I didn't know either and part of the reason why I post things I come across...this is all brand new for me to have names for things I am experiencing.

If you (or anyone) is interested, I found the book on YouTube. https://youtu.be/E2yIjz5lqDY I hope it's not in violation to share that here.  Still learning the rules

[Eireanne]

10 Pet Peeves That Reflect Childhood Trauma Wounds

1. Being cut off in traffic or line can trigger the wound of being pushed aside like you do not matter or are not seen/valued.
2. Being interrupted can trigger the wound of being talked over by caregivers and treated like our words do not matter.
3. Eating a meal with someone on their phone can trigger the wound of being ignored.
4. Waiting can trigger the wound of not knowing if needs will be met.
5. Being put on the spot can trigger the wound of being in trouble.
6. One-uppers can trigger the wound of being dismissed.
7. People who constantly talk about their diet can trigger the wound of body shame.
8. Being lied to can trigger the wound of being unable to trust.
9. Passive-aggressive behavior can trigger a wound of behavior experienced in childhood.
10. Being teased can trigger the wound of having boundaries violated.