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   to you Blue Sky

The sad thing is is that there is also a city councillor in the UK that has also been accused of doing this.

I wonder how much Gisèle's case is just the tip of the iceberg, unfortunately. Not just in France but in other countries too.

Welcome to the forum, Dandelion22!

I like your name because I like dandelions and the name reminds me of the rabbit Dandelion in "Watership Down".

I hope you find this forum supportive.

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Gisèle Pelicot is and was so brave! I'm so sorry that the trial and how it went down exactly has caused a rift between her and her daughter. Abuse of whatever kind can cause such rifts. At least as far as I understand the whole family is united against the husband/father.

I read this quote elsewhere, purportedly from the Toronto Sun but I haven't checked:      TW for SA wording

'She admits that if she had been 20 years younger, she might not have had the strength to do it.

"I might not have dared to refuse a closed-door hearing," she writes. "I would have feared the stares. Those damned stares a woman of my generation has always had to contend with, those damned stares that make you hesitate in the morning between trousers and a dress, that follow you or ignore you, flatter you and embarrass you. Those damned stares that are supposed to tell you who you are, what you're worth, and then abandon you as you grow older."'

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Thank you so much TBB, I've just read your post (again) now. It's really helping me accept myself.

Could your friend have cptsd as well? And be triggered? Just a thought.

    

does anyone else mix up left and right, especially under pressure?

Sometimes, yes. Where I tend to mix them up is when doing physical exercises. So, the instructor says e.g. "put your right foot on your left ankle" and it takes me so much time to figure out what goes where that the instructor has probably moved on... I also once remember having to look very long and carefully at my shoes to figure out which one would go on which foot. I was inpatient at the time. My trauma T suggested I had probably been in a very small inner child at the time.

Also check this thread https://www.cptsd.org/forum/index.php?topic=17082.msg158515#msg158515

Kizzie, will you please let us know when the technical difficulties are sorted? I feel a bit wary of writing long posts atm in case they disappear, as has sometimes happened in the past when technical updates were done by OOTF. Or maybe these technical difficulties are different and will not cause irreversible disappearance of recent posts?

Thank you for all your work on and for OOTS,
Blueberry

Just figuring out which arm im supposed to move

Oh, you have that problem too? Useful to know that it's a dissociative disconnect.

This was the first day I managed, and I did both sessions. I loved the emphasis placed on Choice, like 3 different ways to do one exercise and you choose what feels best for your body. I have never been in any yoga 'place' where that was the case. In fact, always more like there is only one way OR later there's one normal way which can be altered like so or like so when your body can't manage physically.

I discovered how tense my body is, off the scale tense. And I don't want to feel it physically or feel into much either. Interestingly enough, I was able to relax a bit in both sessions, in the second session more my mind than my body. Still, I could feel this tiny sliver of relaxation.

1) I gathered in some good energy this evening

2) I used that good energy to propel myself into the shower and then into my night clothes

3) and now after (2) I feel so much better

4) I made myself something warm to eat for the first time today

5) I did lots of work on my Duolingo course, and then when I noticed I was beginning to make 'silly' mistakes, I allowed myself to stop.

[Armee]

Wow! Thanks for this Armee 

Fortunately, I seem to be feeling better already,

   

It's good to celebrate the good days or even good hours!

For me, it goes in cycles (a year or two ago things were generally manageable for about 3 weeks and then I'd have a down phase. It wasn't moon-related!) so I'm no longer really surprised when I go into a difficult or tiring phase, or am plain in an EF. It isn't fun though, so I'm happy for you that you were feeling better when you wrote.

Also good that you have support from 12 Step groups, or people in them. I used to, but it got to a point where I just got triggered the whole time and triggered other people in the groups too, but some of the sayings are still helpful for me. Whatever tools you have in your toolkit - it's good to use, with cptsd.

I still get notifications from Avaiya. I don't have the wherewithal atm to do more than bump this old thread, but if you google Avaiya, you'll find that they now offer I think it's 12 freebie courses a year on a whole bunch of stuff, most of which is probably useful for people with cptsd. Anxiety, depression, overcoming trauma in some form etc etc.

For general info on freebie conferences/courses, check my second most recent thread on Conferences/Courses.