I suppose this is ICr. on the rampage. I bought a card and small present for one of the couples at the farm who had a baby a couple of days ago. I didn't need to but I wanted to. I asked another farm person today at the market for ideas and she gave me a few, one of which I decided to get. I took a long time to decide in the shop. Even though I know, I know, it's the thought that counts. Also: the proceeds from this shop go to support something this farm couple totally support themselves, so even if they didn't like the present, at least the money wasn't 'wasted' and anyway it's edible. If they don't want it, someone else on the farm will.
But none of those justifications help really. Because ICr. is not interested in that, ICr. absorbed FOO's constant criticism of me in every respect. This is not about: Can I make a good decision? This is about: Blueberry cannot be allowed to believe in herself in case the whole dysfunctional FOO construct comes tumbling down, hurting/destroying other FOO mbrs on the way. As usual it becomes clearer as I write about it. Regularly, I feel almost paralysed in decision-making because of this.
I feel better for having come onto the forum to write about it and to read other posts.
But none of those justifications help really. Because ICr. is not interested in that, ICr. absorbed FOO's constant criticism of me in every respect. This is not about: Can I make a good decision? This is about: Blueberry cannot be allowed to believe in herself in case the whole dysfunctional FOO construct comes tumbling down, hurting/destroying other FOO mbrs on the way. As usual it becomes clearer as I write about it. Regularly, I feel almost paralysed in decision-making because of this.
I feel better for having come onto the forum to write about it and to read other posts.