I Love You All The Same

[Bach]

I'm guessing from your recent lack of contact that the email I sent after you were unable to visit recently hurt your feelings.  I didn't mean to do that. When we talked a few months ago about your fear of my expressing strong emotions, you told me that I can do that in email because that you can digest it without having to react right away, so I thought an email would be okay.   I wasn't looking for drama, I simply wanted to let you know how something you said came across to me, and to suggest a way we might communicate more harmoniously in the future.  On reflection, I realise that the tone of my email was more aggressive than I meant for it to be, and I regret that.  I miss you, and I hope you will come back soon. 

[Bach]

I'm guessing from your recent lack of contact that the email I sent after you were unable to visit recently hurt your feelings.  I didn't mean to do that. When we talked a few months ago about your fear of my expressing strong emotions, you told me that I can do that in email because that you can digest it without having to react right away, so I thought an email would be okay.  I wasn't looking for drama, I simply wanted to let you know how something you said came across to me, and to suggest a way we might communicate more harmoniously in the future.  On reflection, I realise that the tone of my email was more aggressive than I meant for it to be, and I regret that.  I miss you, and I hope you will come back soon.

Today's version:

I'm guessing from your recent lack of contact that the email I sent after you were unable to visit recently hurt your feelings.  Grow up.  You've had a relationship with me for thirty years and yet you still can't give me even the slightest benefit of the doubt.  When we talked a few months ago about your fear of my expressing strong emotions, you told me that I can do that in email because then you can digest it without having to react right away.  And I believed you, more fool me!  I wasn't looking for drama, but you hurt me and I thought you might care enough to want to know how you could avoid doing so in the future.  The tone of my email was snippier than I meant for it to be, and I do regret that.  I wanted it to be calm and neutral, but I guess I was just too hurt, and man, I'm human too.  Can't I have a little grace, after all these years, after how much I've given you?  How much of our time are you going to waste with this silent treatment crap?  I hope that you honestly don't know how much it hurts me when you ignore me, because I'd hate to think that you would intentionally put someone you claim to care about through this kind of pain.

[Bach]

I'm sorry.  I didn't mean to hurt you.  Please come back. 

[NarcKiddo]

 

[Blueberry]

Sitting with you as you go through all these feelings and express them on here, Bach 

[Hope67]