Wow! Thank you for showing the way, CPTSDchild. And yes, I'm with you, as I'm sure we all are.
It takes so much fortitude to endure some of the slop people try to lay at the feet of someone they'd rather intimidate, humiliate, and shame with their false notions of superiority. As if we are so weak by virtue of having endured some awful circumstances that we fell victim to through no fault of our own.
I've been in that position, too. Run into someone who seems like they can be trusted, then they try and turn the tables on you, often starting with fake sympathy which quickly turns to blame. So often I just turn away, afraid of my own anger at having to explain and afraid of losing it entirely, which only reinforces their contempt. Then they try and explain your whole life for you, how you don't live in reality, should just get over it, etc. Yet you, CPTSDchild, found the strength to say enough is enough.
Trouble is, it's natural to want to reach out, to find understanding. Like you say, one's best healing comes from within, but it sure helps to have someone to support you, and not have to wonder if they'll turn on you just because you admit that, yeah, it's scary and it hurts, a lot. To show that it's not weakness to feel that way; just honest.
You summed it nicely by saying, "We have to reclaim and love ourselves enough to go through a small amount of pain, instead of jumping back into the frying pan of emotional * and having our spirits torn apart once again."
Thanks again.
It takes so much fortitude to endure some of the slop people try to lay at the feet of someone they'd rather intimidate, humiliate, and shame with their false notions of superiority. As if we are so weak by virtue of having endured some awful circumstances that we fell victim to through no fault of our own.
I've been in that position, too. Run into someone who seems like they can be trusted, then they try and turn the tables on you, often starting with fake sympathy which quickly turns to blame. So often I just turn away, afraid of my own anger at having to explain and afraid of losing it entirely, which only reinforces their contempt. Then they try and explain your whole life for you, how you don't live in reality, should just get over it, etc. Yet you, CPTSDchild, found the strength to say enough is enough.
Trouble is, it's natural to want to reach out, to find understanding. Like you say, one's best healing comes from within, but it sure helps to have someone to support you, and not have to wonder if they'll turn on you just because you admit that, yeah, it's scary and it hurts, a lot. To show that it's not weakness to feel that way; just honest.
You summed it nicely by saying, "We have to reclaim and love ourselves enough to go through a small amount of pain, instead of jumping back into the frying pan of emotional * and having our spirits torn apart once again."
Thanks again.