I am recovering from a covert narcissistic sociopathic Nmom. First I never knew this can actually cause physical ailment in the body, But having lived through this, it makes much more sense now. Also my NPD mother is still trying to get into my life. She wants phone calls. I no longer place them. the last several calls she abuses me to where I start having heart palpitations. I have told one of my siblings I still want to visit with one another but without "mom" because it has deep physical impact upon me and I get faint and develop heart flutters. Am I allowed to recount what she replied here? Without giving the detail (which I will never forget) The response was out of fear for her life. In other words, the sibling responded by telling me that she was worried our NMom would do something very bad to her if we were to get together without NMom also joining in. Wow. In recalling why this is, I recall quite clearly, there was a long history of us siblings getting together and if NMom heard about it either she (Nmom) deceived her way into being part of the gathering, or started little 'fires' between sibs to ensure the meeting never took place. Thats just the tip pf the iceberg. Her personal vendettas and smearing, and division of the family is astounding let alone the continued targeting and personal attacks.
Therefore, I have gone severely LC. I will not give her my current residence. But annually she finds clever ways to get me to spill the beans. I refuse.
Has anyone else tried LC over NC? And if so what is the reason? Going NC instead of NC at this time, well, its actually out of fear of reprisal. It horrible to know you were only used as a tool and never properly loved let alone nurtured by your own biological mother.