hi, hazy,
i agree a lot with what radical says. i think we may have a dominant 'type', but we learn how to do all of them as the situation warrants.
i have had my own problems with arrogance, dismissing what others said, not making eye contact cuz i somehow thought i was better than them. i was programmed to do that, i know that now. insight and awareness are the first steps to changing our 'go-to' responses to others.
it'll take time and work, won't always be clean and clear, you'll sometimes feel messy, but as you continue in recovery (at least, this is how it worked for me), you'll be able to change those programmed patterns of response and set up the ones that fit more with who you really are inside. it'll happen. baby steps and patience, especially with yourself. you'll get to where you need to be.
i agree a lot with what radical says. i think we may have a dominant 'type', but we learn how to do all of them as the situation warrants.
i have had my own problems with arrogance, dismissing what others said, not making eye contact cuz i somehow thought i was better than them. i was programmed to do that, i know that now. insight and awareness are the first steps to changing our 'go-to' responses to others.
it'll take time and work, won't always be clean and clear, you'll sometimes feel messy, but as you continue in recovery (at least, this is how it worked for me), you'll be able to change those programmed patterns of response and set up the ones that fit more with who you really are inside. it'll happen. baby steps and patience, especially with yourself. you'll get to where you need to be.