No one rescued me

[Alexandra]

Hello ; What my so-called mother did to me, was an open secret, examples ,when I screamed , the downstairs neighbors would pound on the their ceiling, my so-called mother was seeing a psychiatrist, teachers in school would tell me ,to tell my mother to change my shirt, no one did anything, it felt to me like, society, was fine with my so-called mother's  behavior, I felt like I was nothing, I felt like I was not a part of society , have others had this experience? ,would like to know, thank you

[HannahOne]

Alexandra, I was sorry to read no one rescued you, even when they heard and should have intervened. To answer your question, in my case, no one intervened either. At least one doctor was aware, but did not report, people in my school thought I was deaf or had a low IQ and sent me to an evaluation but once they figure out I could hear fine and was high IQ, that was the end of that, although my parents also changed my school every few years. I asked for help directly from a family member and was turned away.

It seems that this is not unusual, society and people don't always respond or help, they are in denial. Society undervalues children I think. I am so sorry that your cries were not responded to. You are not nothing, you are a human and you deserve to be seen and heard.

It's been helping me to imagine people coming to rescue me. I don't know if that would be helpful to you. I imagine what should have happened. When you screamed the neighbors should have come down to you and called the police to come help you and take you to a safe place. Or teachers should have reported and a social worker should have come to give you a clean shirt. Whatever healing imagery that shows what you think should  have happened or would like to have happened. Bottom line you should have been helped.

Solidarity.

[NarcKiddo]

I get quite emotional when I see news footage of rescues. It would have been hard for anyone to know anything was wrong in my family as my parents were so good at putting on a show, and I was not physically abused in a way that would leave traces. I think people are very loath to intervene - we see this a lot in the UK with the grooming gangs, where social workers and police were aware of problems but chose not to help or investigate.