A Gentle Reminder

[Kizzie]

There have been a few instances recently where members have been giving advice in the form of "you should/should not" and it's concerning because we're here to get away from that and move towards offering opinions and/or sharing what has worked/not worked from us.

Please move to "in my opinion..." or "in my experience, what has worked/not worked for me is ..." These kinds of statements let readers know you are not telling them what to do, but are offering up some suggestions or examples they can take or leave.

Furthermore, if the discussion has turned into a bit of a debate that's fine to a certain extent, but there comes a point when we need to step away and agree to disagree before things get heated. We need to remember in relationships we don't need to win or make the other person agree with what we are saying, but that once we have clearly made our point and the other person does not agree it's time to stop. Try "I hear you and respectfully I still disagree, but I thank you for your opinion/insights."

What other members think/feel/experience will not be the same so please be cognizant of that when posting. We need to do the best by one another and a large part of that is promoting other members' sense of agency, safety and respect here at Out of the Storm.

Thanks everyone.

Kizzie