Living As All of Me

[NarcKiddo]

Why do we think it is all our fault? I don't think your activities popped the stitch, and even if they did it's probably because it was already part dissolved. The body doesn't always fully dissolve stitches - sometimes it treats them as a foreign body and shoves them out. For sure it would probably have been wiser not to pull on it, especially now it has ended up hurting, but to my mind that is as far as your liability goes. And I don't think it is unreasonable for you to have wanted it out if your body was already actively trying to push it out. If it were me, I would be concentrating on thinking about any reluctance to contact the medics for advice before pulling on the stitch. (FYI I would likely not have contacted them for advice either. I'd probably have been too chicken to pull the stitch and would have wandered around with it snagging on my clothing while stressing massively and imagining that my whole insides were now unravelling!)

I'm sorry you can't plan. That totally sucks. I'd rather be given bad news fast than hang around waiting for good news.

I hope the meeting goes better than you fear. I hope you can channel your inner Frank.

[HannahOne]

Armee, thank you for sharing your experience with IEP meetings! It's such a weird world, the SPED world of rules, meetings, evals etc. That's a lot of it, yes, I feel shame, like exposed, because my child isn't perfect and I feel blamed, or like their struggles shows something's wrong with me. But my child isn't a representation of me, they're their own person. I can't take credit for their good qualities so I can't take repsonsibility for their struggles either, it's not about my parenting it's about what the school is going to provide to help. It's tough as you know when the district says, about lifelong independently validated learning disabilities and neurodivergence, "Have you tried talking to them, Ms. HannahOne?" LOL. If I could talk them out of it, we wouldn't have a problem!

I wish you good luck at yours next week! Thankfully mine went well, the lawyer did all the talking, and we got enough of what we needed. I think I have a little mini PTSD reaction just to the idea of n IEP meeting. But in the present, it's ok.

Yeah Chart, why do I think it's my fault? I think it must be a habit, to have a sense of control. If it's my fault, somehow I could change it or control it, but I can't, my body's gonna do what it does.  I did learn it's not unusual to have stitches push out. And yes it's easy to imagine insides unraveling! I have to reel myself in!