My Family Doesn't Care About Me

[BlueMoon_]

Just finished visiting my aunt with my mom. I want to go NC with my mom but I was kinda testing my aunt to decide if I want to maintain contact with her or not. She has never been overtly cruel like my mom but we don't have much of a relationship.

I realized throughout the day that they treated me like I was some inanimate object. My aunt often talked to my mom like I wasn't there. I initiated some talking with her, which she returned, but she never initiated talking with me, or asked me about my life or my hobbies or whatever.

And then when we left, my mom driving me home, she didn't even ask me what was my favorite part of the day or anything like that.

It's disheartening to realize all my close family members don't really take an interest in me the way I crave, or know me on a deep level.

No one really knows me truly. And it's hard to make sense of why they don't try to.

[BlueDragon]

Hi, I can feel your pain and sorrow. It is very sad to realize that. I can speak from my point of view and that is that in time it feels less painful and less devastating. I believe the main thing is to keep focusing on the truth and since we are all prone to hide painful facts to survive for me it was very important not to in time start making excuses for them. Like maybe I was to sensitive, who pays attention on people all the time, the were tiered, old etc.

[Kizzie]

I felt like I was reading about myself when I read your post BlueMoon! All of my family including extended members never asked me about me. I felt invisible truth be told so I can relate to what you're saying. Very sorry for how you feel, it is hard I know.  You have a community here now and we see you. Being seen and heard and validated here is something hopefully you can take out into real life.  I know sharing with others here has helped me IRL, for the longest time the real me just flew below the radar and now I'm out more and more.