Grief Work: Leick and Davidsen-Neilsen Theory

[BeHea1thy]

One aspect of life which needs continual attention is grief; how to feel it, process it and eventually incorporate a particular loss into life. It's hard when it feels like much of my life is already about loss. The Kubler-Ross Model is good, but never quite worked for me, maybe I've just heard it too long.

This link is to a course from a website called The Doctor Will See You Now; the psychology of close relationships. http://www.closerelationships.com/member/clrel_8/cr6.shtml The Leick and Davidsen-Neilsen's theory is pragmatic and task oriented.

1. Ask for help facing the reality; plunge yourself into the miserable facts
2. Express the emotion of loss
3. Develop new skills
4. Cultivate new relationships

A quote which caught my eye; Identify what you have to offer in a relationship and decide how to express yourself with friends and perhaps new partners.

Here's another short summary which uses this model. http://griefandrenewal.com/article9.htm

[Kizzie]

Tks for this BeHealthy. A lot of the recovery approaches that resonate with me also seem to follow a staged approach of getting in touch with the trauma, dealing with grief and loss, and moving on and reinvesting all that energy into the present. 

I do agree that the only way out of grief is through it (although I really wish it were otherwise).