I’m ruining my husbands life

[Stussy7]

Does anyone else suffer from guilt/shame/self hatred because of how our disease affects our spouse?
It is so hard for him to cope with all my issues. He often breaks down in tears due to all the stress, especially if he accidentally triggers me.
He used to be a happy guy, but after years of marriage to me, he's always struggling to cope. On one occasion he blew up and yelled at me "stop ruining my f#ck*ing life!"
Those words still haunt me to this day.

[Kizzie]

Oh Stussy, I am so sorry to hear this Yes, I've also worried about what my trauma has done and does to my H and S. It is out in the open though and we do talk about it which helps. I try not to let my symptoms spill over onto either of them, but it happens sometimes and then I make sure I apologize. I think letting them know I really care that my trauma affects them has been key to helping us all to deal with it.  Sometimes it's just really hard though I know.

Just some thoughts but have you and he ever considered couples therapy with a therapist who understands trauma? Or maybe he needs a therapist of his own, someone he can talk to to help him deal with the stress?