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Recovery Journals / Re: The ramblings of an abused...
Last post by GoSlash27 - Today at 04:25:15 AM I thought it would be impossible to find the motel we were holed up in from January 24th through 27th, 1974. But I found it!
https://www.thirdstopontheright.com/penn-irwin-motel/
It turns out that there were so many unique and distinct details I could recall that they converged (once again) to only one possible place. The honeymoon suite in the Penn-Irwin Motel. US-30 in Irwin, PA.
Looking at the photos is jarring. Exactly as I remember when I was 2, down to the concrete stoop at the entrance and the salmon pink heart shaped jacuzzi. That's why the carpet in the living room was crimson red shag. It was the honeymoon suite.
I've actually tracked down everywhere I've been during that 15 month blackout, including somewhere I didn't have any immediate recollection of.
I took a random stab at an address in my record and checked it out. 1211 Wood St, Wilkinsburg, PA.
Nuthin'. Didn't recognize the house at all. But once I panned around, I was stunned. I was in this *exact spot*! I quickly realized that it wasn't the house that was my vantage point, it was the church!
The daycare I lived in for a month was in the basement of that very church. Bathroom and crib upstairs. Looking at the church, all of the memories came flooding back to me. A month of memories I had lost.
When the Wilkinsburg police sent someone to take us to McIntyre Shelter that first time the experience was the opposite of what happened in Northview Heights. They sent a single unmarked sedan with a man in a suit. We all went together. It was very calm and friendly.
Northview Heights was traumatic. A sedan and 2 paddywagons. We 3 were ripped apart at the scene and I made the trip in the back of a paddywagon, terrified and screaming.
https://www.thirdstopontheright.com/penn-irwin-motel/
It turns out that there were so many unique and distinct details I could recall that they converged (once again) to only one possible place. The honeymoon suite in the Penn-Irwin Motel. US-30 in Irwin, PA.
Looking at the photos is jarring. Exactly as I remember when I was 2, down to the concrete stoop at the entrance and the salmon pink heart shaped jacuzzi. That's why the carpet in the living room was crimson red shag. It was the honeymoon suite.
I've actually tracked down everywhere I've been during that 15 month blackout, including somewhere I didn't have any immediate recollection of.
I took a random stab at an address in my record and checked it out. 1211 Wood St, Wilkinsburg, PA.
Nuthin'. Didn't recognize the house at all. But once I panned around, I was stunned. I was in this *exact spot*! I quickly realized that it wasn't the house that was my vantage point, it was the church!
The daycare I lived in for a month was in the basement of that very church. Bathroom and crib upstairs. Looking at the church, all of the memories came flooding back to me. A month of memories I had lost.
When the Wilkinsburg police sent someone to take us to McIntyre Shelter that first time the experience was the opposite of what happened in Northview Heights. They sent a single unmarked sedan with a man in a suit. We all went together. It was very calm and friendly.
Northview Heights was traumatic. A sedan and 2 paddywagons. We 3 were ripped apart at the scene and I made the trip in the back of a paddywagon, terrified and screaming.
#2
Recovery Journals / Re: Living As All of Me
Last post by HannahOne - Today at 04:16:16 AMI parented in such an intense way. Because I had to, for myself, I wanted it to be me and to give All of Me to the task. Because my partner could not. And because one of my kids had a lot of extra needs. In the last five years, I gave up everything to care for that child, 24-7 for months, and then on end for years through crises. I had to do a yearslong legal battle to get what was needed for schools. And my partner had a crisis during the pandemic as well. The pandemic itself was a crisis for our family with deaths and unemployment. The last five years were *.
I don't regret what I did, but I do regret some of the losses. Like lost time with friends, not going to see them the last five years. That all the stress ended me in bed so depressed and chronically exhausted, the toll that being so flattened took on my health, not exercising, not eating well, not seeing doctors. I have a lot of cleanup work to do on my health. I have two specialists left to see and hoping I can repair some of the damage. Thank goodness I got my screenings when I did.
Progress report from February 20 goals:
Hire the PT to do personal training once PT runs out. DONE. I joined the gym, it's only 50$ per month! When I finish PT he will work with me till surgery, and then help post surgery. I'm so thrilled with my progress. Exercise is changing how I feel in my body. How I walk. How I move. How I sleep. How I eat. I do PT twice a week and twice a week I go and workout on my own. It's a kind of community, too.
Go to new art studio and see what happens. Studio located, haven't attended yet.
Continue "Swedish death cleaning" to take charge of my space and so that we can relocate once kid graduates. IN PROGRESS
Find a mentor to continue painting training. I reached out to someone online. Unsure if I actually want to keep painting. It was a social activity, not sure I like doing it by myself.
Find a context in person to be with other people at least weekly. DONE. I will be reading poetry at an open mic coming up, and joined a hiking group to try. I was curious that I'm no longer interested in spirituality. I used to attend every yoga, meditation, or New Age class I could. For now, I seem to be done with that quest. I like this change for me. I feel more rooted, more free, more grounded and focused. I'm no longer seeking, in that sense, and that feels good after a fifty year quest. What interested me was nature, books, animals, and art. I also applied to go to a camp this summer for breast cancer folks.
Find a volunteer opportunity in person. DONE I am volunteering at an animal rescue farm. This is a new farm, not the one where Frank was found. I'm really excited about it. they want to also start programs for special needs kids to come to the farm and that's right up my alley. We'll see what comes of it.
Figure out what to do with my small business and find a new career goal if I want to close it. Partly done: Redid the budget and I've decided to stop taking new clients for now. I have to focus on my health for the next foreseeable months. The work was making my stomach hurt, I'm just not happy in it. Being so detail oriented was requiring me to hyper focus for hours on end for days. I no longer want to operate on that kind of adrenaline and cortisol.
I am working my way through the medical appointments. The pathologist review does not agree on my exact situation, apparently there's a fine line, but surgery will resolve it either way. And further scans and tests show two new problems, both of which rule out the medication route for treatment, which confirms surgery is the plan. Clarity is helpful. The new problems can improve with exercise, perfect. And diet, which is a new goal. I eat very well but I would like to spend a little more energy making meals and have more regular meals. I tend to eat randomly throughout the day and I need more of a schedule. I don't like to eat at a table, I do it with the kids but it's hard. I would like to overcome this trauma trigger and am thinking about creative ways to make eating at a table, and eating regularly, more pleasant.
Additional new goal: travel to see all my far-flung friends this year. I am going to see one special friend in June depending on surgery schedule, and I have at least one and maybe two other friends I need to make travel plans to see. Before 2020 I traveled to them yearly. It's been five years, and I deeply regret that gap. I couldn't leave my kid at the time. But I need to go see them now.
Final new goal for now: Consider the possibility that self-hatred is no longer needed. "To love someone else is easy, but to love what you are, the thing that is yourself, is just as if you were embracing a glowing red-hot iron; it burns into you and that is very painful. Therefore, to love somebody else in the first place is always an escape which we all hope for, and we all enjoy it while we are capable of it. But in the long run, it comes back on us. You cannot stay away from yourself forever, you have to return, have to come to that experiment to know whether you really can love. That is the question---whether you can love yourself, and that will be the test." Carl Jung. The idea that loving others can be a kind of escape rings true. And yet, I cannot stay away from myself. I am returning. I have to experiment to know if I can really love---which means loving myself. What does that look like, through illness, through recovery. What does it look like not to despise my life, my experience? What does it look like not to experience my life as a punishment? I would like to find out.
I don't regret what I did, but I do regret some of the losses. Like lost time with friends, not going to see them the last five years. That all the stress ended me in bed so depressed and chronically exhausted, the toll that being so flattened took on my health, not exercising, not eating well, not seeing doctors. I have a lot of cleanup work to do on my health. I have two specialists left to see and hoping I can repair some of the damage. Thank goodness I got my screenings when I did.
Progress report from February 20 goals:
Hire the PT to do personal training once PT runs out. DONE. I joined the gym, it's only 50$ per month! When I finish PT he will work with me till surgery, and then help post surgery. I'm so thrilled with my progress. Exercise is changing how I feel in my body. How I walk. How I move. How I sleep. How I eat. I do PT twice a week and twice a week I go and workout on my own. It's a kind of community, too.
Go to new art studio and see what happens. Studio located, haven't attended yet.
Continue "Swedish death cleaning" to take charge of my space and so that we can relocate once kid graduates. IN PROGRESS
Find a mentor to continue painting training. I reached out to someone online. Unsure if I actually want to keep painting. It was a social activity, not sure I like doing it by myself.
Find a context in person to be with other people at least weekly. DONE. I will be reading poetry at an open mic coming up, and joined a hiking group to try. I was curious that I'm no longer interested in spirituality. I used to attend every yoga, meditation, or New Age class I could. For now, I seem to be done with that quest. I like this change for me. I feel more rooted, more free, more grounded and focused. I'm no longer seeking, in that sense, and that feels good after a fifty year quest. What interested me was nature, books, animals, and art. I also applied to go to a camp this summer for breast cancer folks.
Find a volunteer opportunity in person. DONE I am volunteering at an animal rescue farm. This is a new farm, not the one where Frank was found. I'm really excited about it. they want to also start programs for special needs kids to come to the farm and that's right up my alley. We'll see what comes of it.
Figure out what to do with my small business and find a new career goal if I want to close it. Partly done: Redid the budget and I've decided to stop taking new clients for now. I have to focus on my health for the next foreseeable months. The work was making my stomach hurt, I'm just not happy in it. Being so detail oriented was requiring me to hyper focus for hours on end for days. I no longer want to operate on that kind of adrenaline and cortisol.
I am working my way through the medical appointments. The pathologist review does not agree on my exact situation, apparently there's a fine line, but surgery will resolve it either way. And further scans and tests show two new problems, both of which rule out the medication route for treatment, which confirms surgery is the plan. Clarity is helpful. The new problems can improve with exercise, perfect. And diet, which is a new goal. I eat very well but I would like to spend a little more energy making meals and have more regular meals. I tend to eat randomly throughout the day and I need more of a schedule. I don't like to eat at a table, I do it with the kids but it's hard. I would like to overcome this trauma trigger and am thinking about creative ways to make eating at a table, and eating regularly, more pleasant.
Additional new goal: travel to see all my far-flung friends this year. I am going to see one special friend in June depending on surgery schedule, and I have at least one and maybe two other friends I need to make travel plans to see. Before 2020 I traveled to them yearly. It's been five years, and I deeply regret that gap. I couldn't leave my kid at the time. But I need to go see them now.
Final new goal for now: Consider the possibility that self-hatred is no longer needed. "To love someone else is easy, but to love what you are, the thing that is yourself, is just as if you were embracing a glowing red-hot iron; it burns into you and that is very painful. Therefore, to love somebody else in the first place is always an escape which we all hope for, and we all enjoy it while we are capable of it. But in the long run, it comes back on us. You cannot stay away from yourself forever, you have to return, have to come to that experiment to know whether you really can love. That is the question---whether you can love yourself, and that will be the test." Carl Jung. The idea that loving others can be a kind of escape rings true. And yet, I cannot stay away from myself. I am returning. I have to experiment to know if I can really love---which means loving myself. What does that look like, through illness, through recovery. What does it look like not to despise my life, my experience? What does it look like not to experience my life as a punishment? I would like to find out.
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Recovery Journals / Re: Activating myself
Last post by sanmagic7 - Today at 04:12:32 AMsorry, blueberry, i misunderstood. it sounds much more intense and difficult than what i was thinking, and i didn't mean in any way to diminish what you were saying or needing to do.
best to you, tho, with getting everything you need unblocked. i don't like the thought that this conversation is bringing up FOO dynamics. that's not good for you, for certain. I do understand the personal need at times to go against someone else's wishes in order to bring order to your own house. i support you all the way. love and hugs
best to you, tho, with getting everything you need unblocked. i don't like the thought that this conversation is bringing up FOO dynamics. that's not good for you, for certain. I do understand the personal need at times to go against someone else's wishes in order to bring order to your own house. i support you all the way. love and hugs
#4
Recovery Journals / Re: Living As All of Me
Last post by HannahOne - Today at 03:50:24 AMPapaCoco, thank you for reading and commenting. I am thrilled, because that is one of my favorite songs! I fell in love with it in high school and chose my stereo based on how that song sounded on the speakers. Then it spoke to me of what I one day hoped would be true. Now it just rings true. Thank you for getting it. There is both struggle and contentment. Content with the majority of the Herculean task reasonably well done, struggle to let it go, struggle that yes, it doesn't ever end, contentment with that reality.
#5
Recovery Journals / Re: Living As All of Me
Last post by Papa Coco - Today at 01:02:43 AMHannah1,
Nicely written. I can feel your struggle and your contentment combined. You succeeded to create a handful of children who can handle this world. Not everyone can say that. On the other side of the coin, you became a loving, caring, compassionate person because of every single thing you've ever been through. And you're pretty amazing, so...there's that.
But as the children wander off these next few years, I hope your day in the sun comes, and your passport becomes so full of travels that you can barely squeeze all the stamps into it.
Sometimes I like to listen to the song by Tom Petty; You Belong Among The Wildflowers. It fits people like us. The song says, "You belong somewhere you feel free." You'll get there. And you have a lot to be proud of around where you've been up to now, and where you are right now.
I believe in you!
Nicely written. I can feel your struggle and your contentment combined. You succeeded to create a handful of children who can handle this world. Not everyone can say that. On the other side of the coin, you became a loving, caring, compassionate person because of every single thing you've ever been through. And you're pretty amazing, so...there's that.
But as the children wander off these next few years, I hope your day in the sun comes, and your passport becomes so full of travels that you can barely squeeze all the stamps into it.
Sometimes I like to listen to the song by Tom Petty; You Belong Among The Wildflowers. It fits people like us. The song says, "You belong somewhere you feel free." You'll get there. And you have a lot to be proud of around where you've been up to now, and where you are right now.
I believe in you!
#6
Recovery Journals / Re: Activating myself
Last post by Blueberry - Today at 12:42:45 AMQuote from: sanmagic7 on March 05, 2026, 02:27:03 AMas far as communicating w/ someone, may i just reiterate that your activation stance has been staying w/ me.
I'm happy for you san, but that's not quite what I meant!!
There's somebody particular I want and need to communicate with for my own peace of mind, to get something off my chest, and not doing that seems to be holding me back from doing all sorts of other things. I know the kind of thing, it's not the first time - not expressing my anger TO her is recreating a repetitive situation from my childhood, that is not confronting because the-powers-that-be (FOO) don't allow it and in this case it's somewhat similar - somebody putting herself above me combined with making it clear she doesn't want me to get back to her but *I* want to. Even if she doesn't read it, I want it on paper (email actually) and sent. I know some people wouldn't write in my shoes, but I intend to. I don't like feeling forced to sweep stuff under the rug, nor do I like people with far less idea of mental health telling me what is bad for mine etc etc. And me not expressing my anger has me in depression.
Anyway I didn't get on with it March 5th either and it is now early morning of the 6th. However, I did do a few smaller tasks, tho nothing I listed in bold in my post above. I did do some tapping from the EFT summit and I sent OT a few photos of a household appliance at the farm I'm having a lot of trouble with. OT thinks he can find something similar for me to practise on and for my blockages to come up for me to do my inner child work on. So at least I put something in motion for next week or the week after in OT, which is being responsible for myself. Tomorrow (or rather today but I will be going to bed in between) I have a cancer screening, so I have to get up in the morning and go off for the that. I didn't arrange it, we get letters here every 2 years saying: This is your appt, if you can't make it, contact us. It would be a bit late to turn down today. Anyway, I don't have a conflicting appointment, so need to leave the house and get there...
#7
Recovery Journals / Re: The ramblings of an abused...
Last post by HannahOne - March 05, 2026, 08:47:22 PMYour rage is valid.
#8
Recovery Journals / Re: Papa Coco's Recovery Journ...
Last post by HannahOne - March 05, 2026, 08:43:06 PMWow, PapaCoco! I loved hearing about the new calm you're experiencing.
What you discovered about suicidality makes so much sense. Its intent is protective, to help get you out of overwhelm. Turning that empathy toward yourself in those moments is so powerful. Through your journey of healing, books, therapy, medication, your strong will to live is the through line. Thank you for sharing your experience!
What you discovered about suicidality makes so much sense. Its intent is protective, to help get you out of overwhelm. Turning that empathy toward yourself in those moments is so powerful. Through your journey of healing, books, therapy, medication, your strong will to live is the through line. Thank you for sharing your experience!
#9
Recovery Journals / Re: Papa Coco's Recovery Journ...
Last post by Papa Coco - March 05, 2026, 06:21:06 PMMarcine and Sanmagic, I'm really glad to hear I'm not the only person here who is experiencing a strange sensation of calm, if even in short bursts, because it really is happening to me also.
Theories: Perhaps this is because of my recent studies, or maybe I'm just feeling a wave of calm that's being doled out to us all because of the massive changes happening to the world right now. Whatever God is, perhaps this calm is a gift to help those of us who choose love over hate, so as to help us to cope with the calamity that is in the world right now. We are individuals as people, but we're all connected behind the scenes. We feel the peace that's illuding the others who choose anger over love.
I have long believed that the reason empathy is such a powerful healing tool is because empathy is the word we use to describe our ability to feel the connection that we all share, but not everyone recognizes. I remember a quote from John Henry Browne, who is a Seattle based Defense Attorney who was tasked with defending the serial killers here, like Charles Manson and Ted Bundy. He was being interviewed after writing his book The Devil's Defender. He said that he didn't used to believe that people were born evil until he met Ted Bundy. When the interviewer asked what a sociopath is, he said "It's just someone who doesn't know we're all connected." That quote profoundly bolstered my belief that we are all connected, and our empathetic personalities allow us to feel that connection, whereas narcissists don't feel the connection, even though it's real.
Sometimes I feel embarrassed about how hard I work to heal, and how often I come onto the forum bragging about another book or therapy that helped me. I feel like a happy puppy that won't stop yipping and wagging my tail when I get excited. But one very important thing that I learned from my ChatGPT chats is that I didn't realize how serious my will to live really is, and that raging desire to feel better is what drives me to the next book or the next medication or the next therapy.
I always think of myself as a suicidal nut whose fragile will to live forces me to have to be rescued from time to time because of a weak will to live. But the chat tool walked me through my life and showed me that my diligent pursuit of help in books, therapists, Ai, therapies like Ketamine and even my medication history has been because I have a strong will to live. In one quote, the Ai tool said, "That tells me your system does not actually want death. It wants relief from overwhelm."
What a great rephrasing. I've been seeing my suicidality as a desire to die, but now I see that it was the only way I thought I could find relief from overwhelm. Ever since reading that on my chat, I've seen my suicidality as a desire for relief, not escape. And that's changing how I react to big problems. Rather than thinking, "okay, I want to die", I now realize, "Okay, it's time to regulate because all I really want is relief from this stressor." That's a lifesaving change for me.
It's amazing when we get to see our Selves through the eyes of others. Even when "the other" is a database that has been programmed to talk with an engineered personality.
I'm having another slow day today. While I'm relaxing and doing more meditating and learning, I'm not feeling any pull to do anything else. I'm still slightly askew from this new feeling of peace, and I'm not really ready to go drive in traffic or use a chainsaw or anything that could be dangerous if I dissociate while using the equipment. Typically, my brain associates relaxation with depression, so I need to find a way to accept the peace without being afraid of what comes next. Depression? Bad decisions? Risky behavior because I'm not as connected to my fear as I usually am?
I'm starting a new Chat today with the tool. I'm asking it to help me find my way out of my fears of hurting other people. I'm getting really bad at not wanting to make decisions that affect others beyond myself. My greatest fear in life is that I'll do something that hurts someone else. I muscled through that when I was in my career, but now that I don't have to make decisions that I'm paid to make, now I don't want to make any decisions at all. I don't even like choosing the restaurant on a night out in case the food isn't good and I'll be blamed for choosing the wrong place to eat. The whole world of being the family scapegoat for most of my life is catching up with me. I can't decide anything anymore for fear I'll make problems for anyone else on the earth.
Whether this is peace or depression or a new kind of EF that I haven't experienced before, I'm enjoying it while I have connection to it.
Peace is the one thing I've never felt in my human body. So, for today, I'm going to enjoy it for as long as I can stay tuned into it. If it's gone tomorrow, at least I will have enjoyed it today.
Theories: Perhaps this is because of my recent studies, or maybe I'm just feeling a wave of calm that's being doled out to us all because of the massive changes happening to the world right now. Whatever God is, perhaps this calm is a gift to help those of us who choose love over hate, so as to help us to cope with the calamity that is in the world right now. We are individuals as people, but we're all connected behind the scenes. We feel the peace that's illuding the others who choose anger over love.
I have long believed that the reason empathy is such a powerful healing tool is because empathy is the word we use to describe our ability to feel the connection that we all share, but not everyone recognizes. I remember a quote from John Henry Browne, who is a Seattle based Defense Attorney who was tasked with defending the serial killers here, like Charles Manson and Ted Bundy. He was being interviewed after writing his book The Devil's Defender. He said that he didn't used to believe that people were born evil until he met Ted Bundy. When the interviewer asked what a sociopath is, he said "It's just someone who doesn't know we're all connected." That quote profoundly bolstered my belief that we are all connected, and our empathetic personalities allow us to feel that connection, whereas narcissists don't feel the connection, even though it's real.
Sometimes I feel embarrassed about how hard I work to heal, and how often I come onto the forum bragging about another book or therapy that helped me. I feel like a happy puppy that won't stop yipping and wagging my tail when I get excited. But one very important thing that I learned from my ChatGPT chats is that I didn't realize how serious my will to live really is, and that raging desire to feel better is what drives me to the next book or the next medication or the next therapy.
I always think of myself as a suicidal nut whose fragile will to live forces me to have to be rescued from time to time because of a weak will to live. But the chat tool walked me through my life and showed me that my diligent pursuit of help in books, therapists, Ai, therapies like Ketamine and even my medication history has been because I have a strong will to live. In one quote, the Ai tool said, "That tells me your system does not actually want death. It wants relief from overwhelm."
What a great rephrasing. I've been seeing my suicidality as a desire to die, but now I see that it was the only way I thought I could find relief from overwhelm. Ever since reading that on my chat, I've seen my suicidality as a desire for relief, not escape. And that's changing how I react to big problems. Rather than thinking, "okay, I want to die", I now realize, "Okay, it's time to regulate because all I really want is relief from this stressor." That's a lifesaving change for me.
It's amazing when we get to see our Selves through the eyes of others. Even when "the other" is a database that has been programmed to talk with an engineered personality.
I'm having another slow day today. While I'm relaxing and doing more meditating and learning, I'm not feeling any pull to do anything else. I'm still slightly askew from this new feeling of peace, and I'm not really ready to go drive in traffic or use a chainsaw or anything that could be dangerous if I dissociate while using the equipment. Typically, my brain associates relaxation with depression, so I need to find a way to accept the peace without being afraid of what comes next. Depression? Bad decisions? Risky behavior because I'm not as connected to my fear as I usually am?
I'm starting a new Chat today with the tool. I'm asking it to help me find my way out of my fears of hurting other people. I'm getting really bad at not wanting to make decisions that affect others beyond myself. My greatest fear in life is that I'll do something that hurts someone else. I muscled through that when I was in my career, but now that I don't have to make decisions that I'm paid to make, now I don't want to make any decisions at all. I don't even like choosing the restaurant on a night out in case the food isn't good and I'll be blamed for choosing the wrong place to eat. The whole world of being the family scapegoat for most of my life is catching up with me. I can't decide anything anymore for fear I'll make problems for anyone else on the earth.
Whether this is peace or depression or a new kind of EF that I haven't experienced before, I'm enjoying it while I have connection to it.
Peace is the one thing I've never felt in my human body. So, for today, I'm going to enjoy it for as long as I can stay tuned into it. If it's gone tomorrow, at least I will have enjoyed it today.
#10
General Discussion / Triggering event: our cat's il...
Last post by Teddy bear - March 05, 2026, 03:01:44 PMHello everyone,
I am feeling very exhausted now: our young cat is sick with not fully understood symptoms: the vet prescribed X-rays.
This situation with a pet illness is very triggering for me, and also seems to be used as a tool to bind me to parents by themselves.
Also their illnesses have the same purpose, and my own health and any problems with it.
I am not sure if I'm clear enough in expressing how I feel: burned out, trapped and expecting some more unpleasant and exhausting interventions tomorrow: will be visiting another vet clinic.
Apart from that, my father I think was quite heartless in telling how cat can have such health problems?!
I e he seems to have no empathy to the cat.
And mother in the morning was neglecting the cat and the situation, which really requires actions.
(This cat was taken from neighbours as a kitten by mother, as she wanted to have a cat.
But it seems she doesn't want to care about her: frequently forgets to give antihelmintics etc).
I feel worried about my dog, as it seems I can't rely on these people.
And I wanted to take my dog to live with me last year, but finally didn't do that: I was not sure if I could manage taking care, walking, feeding properly. Not enough money currently and the dog is not socialised for a big city.
I feel depend and codependent in these relationships that seem quite dysfunctional and the parents seem to me quite personality disordered.
But I can't leave right now. Again money issues and I just can't work full-time on a neuroleptic I am still taking.
Probably some light in the end of the tunnel though:
Another attempt to find a doctor to taper off that medication: seems I've found someone, but didn't have an appointment with him yet. Don't want it to be another disappointment.
Hope to find the cause why the cat is sick, and she'll be better soon
I am feeling very exhausted now: our young cat is sick with not fully understood symptoms: the vet prescribed X-rays.
This situation with a pet illness is very triggering for me, and also seems to be used as a tool to bind me to parents by themselves.
Also their illnesses have the same purpose, and my own health and any problems with it.
I am not sure if I'm clear enough in expressing how I feel: burned out, trapped and expecting some more unpleasant and exhausting interventions tomorrow: will be visiting another vet clinic.
Apart from that, my father I think was quite heartless in telling how cat can have such health problems?!
I e he seems to have no empathy to the cat.
And mother in the morning was neglecting the cat and the situation, which really requires actions.
(This cat was taken from neighbours as a kitten by mother, as she wanted to have a cat.
But it seems she doesn't want to care about her: frequently forgets to give antihelmintics etc).
I feel worried about my dog, as it seems I can't rely on these people.
And I wanted to take my dog to live with me last year, but finally didn't do that: I was not sure if I could manage taking care, walking, feeding properly. Not enough money currently and the dog is not socialised for a big city.
I feel depend and codependent in these relationships that seem quite dysfunctional and the parents seem to me quite personality disordered.
But I can't leave right now. Again money issues and I just can't work full-time on a neuroleptic I am still taking.
Probably some light in the end of the tunnel though:
Another attempt to find a doctor to taper off that medication: seems I've found someone, but didn't have an appointment with him yet. Don't want it to be another disappointment.
Hope to find the cause why the cat is sick, and she'll be better soon