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Recovery Journals / Re: Desert Flower's Recovery J...

Last post by Desert Flower - Today at 10:10:57 AM

Hey Chart, keep on ranting, it really is fine! 

It would be great if you could start the support group.  I think it would be very helpful for many. 

I thought about what you wrote about acceptance. I think I might start another thread on that if I can.

Hey San,
I do hear what you're saying. My inner child really needs that confirmation too. I am doing a lot. So thank you.

Still not feeling well. I had to do my tax adminstration and that surely does not help the stress levels.

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Physical Issues / Re: The Body Keeps The Score (...

Last post by Desert Flower - Today at 10:03:13 AM

Yes! It's a monumental book for us. And true.

I used to have a whole array of physical complaints like these too and understanding how this works has been tremendously helpful.

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Successes, Progress? / Re: Setting boundaries

Last post by Desert Flower - Today at 09:09:18 AM

I'm very proud of you Ladyboar. This is a really big thing you did!
 
(I recently should have said 'no' to extra work and although I had seen the question coming, I could not do it. I had to go back later to tell them I cannot do it.)

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Physical Issues / The Body Keeps The Score (Book...

Last post by DawnMaria - Today at 05:12:05 AM

Anyone read this book? (The body keeps the score) I found it after developing so many body issues, like fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Hashimotos Disease, Osteoarthritis, not to mention the depression, anxiety and Substance abuse problems that I numbed myself with for most of my life. The book itself can be pretty triggering for some people, but it helped me to understand that the trauma, abuse, emotional neglect etc, from a baby through adulthood, definitely had a huge impact on my body too.

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Please Introduce Yourself Here / Re: Definitely still out in th...

Last post by TheBigBlue - Today at 03:31:20 AM

Thank you, Chart, that really means a lot. I haven't seen the film, but I'll look it up - I'm curious now. And thank you for sharing a bit of your own story. Discovering CPTSD later in life has been incredibly disorienting for me too, but finding others who are navigating similar paths is helping more than I expected. I'm grateful to be here and grateful for your welcome.

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Successes, Progress? / Re: Setting boundaries

Last post by Chart - December 01, 2025, 08:47:02 PM

Well done, LadyBoar!

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Successes, Progress? / Re: Setting boundaries

Last post by Ran - December 01, 2025, 08:28:41 PM

Hello everyone,
The other day my mom asked me, for the millionth time, if I'll go back home to visit. (I live in a different country than my original family).
Usually I lie, I said IDK, maybe, well try or something like that to soften the blow (and the reactions from it).
 But this time I could not do it. I could not betray the neglected child I once was. I answered "No." But my mom wanted a answer that would soothe her, so she then asked "But you WANT to come, right?"
Once again the immediate response I was trained to give, to always say yes, always soothe them, always protect their feelings, was not so inevitable now. Now I can say what is truth to myself. And I said it, my answer was "honestly, no."

I feel so free. And I feel so proud of myself for protecting my inner child.

My mom will ask again, eventually, and she'll try to get the answer she wants, she (and my grandma and my sister) might try to make me feel bad, or they might wait until I let my guard down to bombard me with their demands. But I know how possible it is to say what I want to say. And how good it feels to be myself.

Glad to share it with all of you.
 

That's great. I know how hard it is to say no. I've been practicing it myself and it feels liberating.

 

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Successes, Progress? / Re: Setting boundaries

Last post by Blueberry - December 01, 2025, 06:55:53 PM

Good for you, LadyBoar, well done! 

#9

Recovery Journals / Re: starting over

Last post by Desert Flower - December 01, 2025, 06:39:10 PM

Yes, that's a wonderful story San! Thank you. 

#10

AV - Avoidance / Re: Fearful avoidance

Last post by Ran - December 01, 2025, 05:30:47 PM

Ran, in my opinion you have made the first and most important step to changing a dynamic that you feel is hurtful to you and others: You have seen it and owned it as relates to your own behavior. Whatever dynamics come from all that, you are CONSCIOUS of something that is not functioning the way you believe is healthy.

I believe consciousness is a HUGE step forward which launches us on a journey of self discovery that is challenging and often painful, but leads to greater acceptance of ourself and others, as well as moving us to a settled and much safer place. Jung calls this transformation "acquired authenticity", coming to know and love who we truly are. Only then do these "faults" start to lose their energy and power over us. As we become closer to ourselves we find ourselves naturally more at ease and secure. That which hurt us in the past no longer has the foundation to continue functioning the same way. The false self naturally falls away, leaving us lighter and freer to be who we truly are.
 

Yes, I am seeing everything a lot more clearly, even identity and other stuff. I think it all possibly happened for a reason to help me heal and be who I truly am withouth trauma fogging everything. Still a lot of healing to do, but it's a begginning.