hello snookiebookie
I also completely relate, and while it's sad why we all do it, I do feel that little bit of relief that this seems a bit of a common behaviour strategy..... though also feel for you that it is happening in your workplace - I can understand how vulnerable that could make you feel
I generally don't talk very loud - either silent mouthing of words or speak in a quiet voice, though occasionally I'll exclaim a word or phrase quite loudly, or suddenly laugh out loud... I can get very passionate, expressive and demonstrative with facial expressions and gesticulations - I'm a hand talker anyway, but it can get quite emphatic
so far I've only been 'caught' in public on a few occasions (that I know of! ), but that was definitely quite embarrassing.... and I've caught myself in places like my car while sitting at lights and realised that I must look totally mad, though in the car people might think I've been enthusiastically singing along to music
anyway, I have tried, when I catch myself, to feel into what is the emotion is at a more core level.... for me it always revolves around feeling the denial of my dignity, respect and validation, not having a voice and not feeling worthy ... it's as if I am fighting for all of those things, fighting my own corner for my dignity and trying to stand up for myself - that's what I know I am working through, in place of the many times I was unable to .... as much as I am able, I then try to allow that feeling of being dismissed and demeaned to just exist without judgement and without the commentary, then I try to do positive self-talk about how i'm ok and worthy just as I am, I'm safe, I don't need to prove anything to anyone else ... I breathe into it and do some other little techniques to try and ground and calm myself and unhook from the mental aspects .... I also try to tell myself that 'even if someone does see me looking crazy, so what? what harm has been done?', and the answer is always -'none' , so then I can sometimes feel some sense of humour in it.... the focus is really on calming and comforting myself, cause what I'm really doing in the 'raving' is defending and fighting for myself, so I work to introduce an attitude about myself that feels safe enough not to need to fight .... of course, it is often not easy.... and I still do the crazy talk, but getting better at antidoting
not sure I've explained that very well, but I really have to call on a range of tools that I've found work for me
I also completely relate, and while it's sad why we all do it, I do feel that little bit of relief that this seems a bit of a common behaviour strategy..... though also feel for you that it is happening in your workplace - I can understand how vulnerable that could make you feel
I generally don't talk very loud - either silent mouthing of words or speak in a quiet voice, though occasionally I'll exclaim a word or phrase quite loudly, or suddenly laugh out loud... I can get very passionate, expressive and demonstrative with facial expressions and gesticulations - I'm a hand talker anyway, but it can get quite emphatic
so far I've only been 'caught' in public on a few occasions (that I know of! ), but that was definitely quite embarrassing.... and I've caught myself in places like my car while sitting at lights and realised that I must look totally mad, though in the car people might think I've been enthusiastically singing along to music
anyway, I have tried, when I catch myself, to feel into what is the emotion is at a more core level.... for me it always revolves around feeling the denial of my dignity, respect and validation, not having a voice and not feeling worthy ... it's as if I am fighting for all of those things, fighting my own corner for my dignity and trying to stand up for myself - that's what I know I am working through, in place of the many times I was unable to .... as much as I am able, I then try to allow that feeling of being dismissed and demeaned to just exist without judgement and without the commentary, then I try to do positive self-talk about how i'm ok and worthy just as I am, I'm safe, I don't need to prove anything to anyone else ... I breathe into it and do some other little techniques to try and ground and calm myself and unhook from the mental aspects .... I also try to tell myself that 'even if someone does see me looking crazy, so what? what harm has been done?', and the answer is always -'none' , so then I can sometimes feel some sense of humour in it.... the focus is really on calming and comforting myself, cause what I'm really doing in the 'raving' is defending and fighting for myself, so I work to introduce an attitude about myself that feels safe enough not to need to fight .... of course, it is often not easy.... and I still do the crazy talk, but getting better at antidoting
not sure I've explained that very well, but I really have to call on a range of tools that I've found work for me