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You know, I was about to post the same thing. I also find yoga enormously helpful. I understand the need for trauma-sensitive yoga for some people, but I've had good experience with most smaller-classes 'mainstream' yoga.

I moved recently and haven't found a new place that I like yet, but I've been having a lot of success with Yoga by Adriene (she has her own site, but is also on Youtube). She has plenty for weightloss/fitness/flexibility, but additionally very many videos for anxiety, stress, finding self-love, that sort of thing. I normally dislike the new-agey side of yoga (no offence to anyone), but her approach seems really approachable. Also, she has a lot of videos that are both restorative AND have a physical focus - so I can do yoga for my anxiety and my really stiff hips at the same time!

On the topic of it being triggering to not be doing the pose 'right', I totally get you on that and have definitely had that experience. Another vote for Adriene, and a quote from the last video of hers I did - making an adjustment for your body isn't a 'damn I suck' - it's a positive thing you're doing for your body, a kindness to support yourself when you need it, etc. I don't know, it suddenly really hit me in the right way and made sense.

She was recommended to me by a dear friend that has very serious anxiety issues, and had found a lot of success coping through yoga.

It feels good to do something with and FOR my body, like yoga, that is good. I've spent so long hating myself as a physical object, or feeling like my body is an instrument of suffering for others to use to hurt me with... It feels good to have a positive experience with it.

Hi all, and thank you for the kind words! Sorry for taking a while to reply. My new partner is loving and clearly WANTS to be supportive, but he's kind of out of his depth and really so am I. I don't know what to tell him to do to make things better for me, and it feels manipulative because I sometimes think that the only thing that would make me feel better would be like... a weeklong retreat where I am hugged constantly and told that I'm a good person and there's nothing fundamentally evil or poisonous about me. For 7 days continuously with no break, in the hope it breaks through the wall of self-loathing I've got going on.

ah, I'm going to try to take your comment to heart especially. Maybe aiming at feeling safer will be easier than aiming at feeling safe.

Hi all. Just looking for a place to share, heal, and hopefully find my way through.

I'm feeling really lost at the moment and I'm not sure how to deal with re-traumatization. I'd be really open to any helpful material on people or solutions for people who have recovered after a childhood trauma and then an additional adult trauma.

I was sexually abused as a young child, starting very young to the point where it is one of my earliest memory. It was intermittent, but over an extended number of years.

I never told any figure of authority, parents, not even the therapist I had as a teenager for my severe depression. Only in my late teens did I first tell someone - my best friend.

After finishing college, I finally sought therapy and lucked out with a good therapist, it was a helpful relationship and I found her very helpful. I began to feel less intense self-loathing, and feel like I could have a good life or be a worthwhile human.

At around the time, I met my (spoiler!) late husband. It was, for a time, a good relationship. I began to believe that life would be good now, I was loved, and I could have nice things in my life, too! I loved him very intensely, he was very supportive, and we got married. Our circumstances were very difficult. I supported us financially while he studied, all the while also doing my own Masters, all the housework, cooking constantly, etc. I stayed in a job I hated to afford our lives.

Just as I reached the end of my 20s, my husband killed himself. He covered his tracks very well, but several months after his death I discovered that he had dropped out, wasn't studying, and had been making almost everything up for 6-12 months.

Having that trauma on top of my childhood trauma has completely broken me. I felt like, after the initial round of therapy, I could function because lightening didn't strike twice, I could have a good life, life was safe, I didn't need constant hyper-vigilance, I could trust people.

I'm currently in a new and loving relationship, very seriously, but my intense issues are causing serious issues between us. My primary symptoms are intense all-encompassing self-loathing and hatred of self; intense lack of trust in myself, the universe, and other people; and near total inability to cope with my emotions. I can't deal with any criticism, however minor, and fly completely off the handle because any criticism or any mistake I make "means" that I am correct in my intense self-loathing.

My health insurance kicks in juuuust now, so I am going to seek help - again. Is it even possible to trust that I will ever feel better or life will ever feel safe?