Never posted here but my therapist thought I should give it a try. So stay with me here...
I have been with my wife for 4 years and married for a year and a half. I fell in love with her because she was so upbeat and able to carry herself high. After a few months with her I starting noticing things that seemed to be traits not desirable but I thought that was normal. Further along I started seeing the real side of her. She would put on a facade for everyone she wasn't close with and be happy and outgoing but once she was home it was all negative and complaining.
Now I have made my share of mistakes and I kept something from her I shouldn't have. So for a year I worked on my issues and it was painful trying to repair our relationship and repair myself. I felt like I finally got to a good place personally and felt like I could keep going.
Fast forward a few years later and the negativity turned to attacking, verbal abuse and isolation. Every little thing that doesn't go her way or does not happen to plan she freaks out and takes it out on me. If I ask her to stop she tells me that I have no right to say that and I have no empathy for her. So now I stay silent.
Tonight really made me rethink our entire marriage. I hate giving up but I have tried everything. I said something that was wrong but innocuous and she turned it into a big issue where she wanted me to listen and say what she wanted to hear. I tried to just take it but even being silent and listening she called me immature and a baby for not talking or giving an answer.
I'm at the end of my rope and feel very alone and trapped. I have no idea what to do except leave but I don't know if that's my frustration talking or just the fight or flight talking. To add to this I am battling depression that I have been diagnosed with and taking meds for. Any help or even just to know I'm not alone would be appreciated.
I have been with my wife for 4 years and married for a year and a half. I fell in love with her because she was so upbeat and able to carry herself high. After a few months with her I starting noticing things that seemed to be traits not desirable but I thought that was normal. Further along I started seeing the real side of her. She would put on a facade for everyone she wasn't close with and be happy and outgoing but once she was home it was all negative and complaining.
Now I have made my share of mistakes and I kept something from her I shouldn't have. So for a year I worked on my issues and it was painful trying to repair our relationship and repair myself. I felt like I finally got to a good place personally and felt like I could keep going.
Fast forward a few years later and the negativity turned to attacking, verbal abuse and isolation. Every little thing that doesn't go her way or does not happen to plan she freaks out and takes it out on me. If I ask her to stop she tells me that I have no right to say that and I have no empathy for her. So now I stay silent.
Tonight really made me rethink our entire marriage. I hate giving up but I have tried everything. I said something that was wrong but innocuous and she turned it into a big issue where she wanted me to listen and say what she wanted to hear. I tried to just take it but even being silent and listening she called me immature and a baby for not talking or giving an answer.
I'm at the end of my rope and feel very alone and trapped. I have no idea what to do except leave but I don't know if that's my frustration talking or just the fight or flight talking. To add to this I am battling depression that I have been diagnosed with and taking meds for. Any help or even just to know I'm not alone would be appreciated.