Your post resonates with me. I am constantly being told to lower my voice. I've come to realize that not being heard my entire childhood affects the tone and volume of my voice. When folks say invalidating things to me or I mistakenly take them as invalidating, I raise my voice. I become combative with people as I feel the anger rise up.
My brother and I were named co-executors of my Moms Estate but I resigned because I live out of state. Now I find myself repeatedly getting dysregulated when dealing with him, who due to his own trauma, is compulsive in asking me the same questions dozens of times and then ignoring my input. It wasn't until now that I understand he treats me very poorly due to the role he assumed projecting toxic family dysfunction onto me. I become extremely dysregulated and angry that he is delaying this process unnecessarily. I just want it over.
My brother and I were named co-executors of my Moms Estate but I resigned because I live out of state. Now I find myself repeatedly getting dysregulated when dealing with him, who due to his own trauma, is compulsive in asking me the same questions dozens of times and then ignoring my input. It wasn't until now that I understand he treats me very poorly due to the role he assumed projecting toxic family dysfunction onto me. I become extremely dysregulated and angry that he is delaying this process unnecessarily. I just want it over.

