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You just keep going forward, NK, it's truly impressive and inspiring ESPECIALLY being in the middle of FOO madness and elder care. It's really really really impressive.

Such a brilliant strategy! 

Apologies for my question about singing if it stirred anything up!  I remembered it being something mostly joyful for you which is why I asked if it would "count" as something activating. But what you are saying about being coercive to younger parts makes sense!

I'm so impressed with your new strategy. 

 

Welcome to a new journal and a promising new approach! I agree that with dissociation activation is so much a huge huge key. I wonder if singing is an activator for you?

 

I'll say more when I have the time to express my thoughts clearly. Or as clearly as I am able. But that love is your favorite thing...it says so much dear. 

Take care 

 

  San

I think it is beautiful that you were able to open up to your new T about such a sensitive, delicate topic. I hope you can keep letting these out in her company. You've been on your own without help for too long.   

I have some theories on the question of love but I'll save them for another time. If you are up to it I'll leave for you a gentle hug full of love and care and respect, mom to mom. 

 

Joyoushugs filled with red Robin songs for the red Robin princess on her way to therapy to get loving kind support. 

 

Telling you to put on your oxygen mask first was advice-y and dismissive and I'm sorry. I messed that one up! You know how to handle all this, you always have. I was just feeling protective of you which is not really my place.   

I care about you, San,  but my delivery was off.   

Yeah that's true Teddy Bear. I do wonder what causes one person to head toward a CPTSD presentation, one toward personality disorder, one toward schizophrenia, and one toward psychopathy.

Wow. Reciprocal empathy. That feels like the crux of growing up with a parent with a personality disorder.

I'm so sorry you are going through this phase of CPTSD. It's awful.

Putting them out of mind probably isn't the best long term because the content is coming up to be processed. If they are so bad you can't speak about then you can also try to get them out here in writing.

I understand, not being able to speak of them. Some of my nightmares have been so horrific that the only way I could speak of them with T was doing flash EMDR first before even trying to share. There's no way I could even say anything about them to anyone else.

 

It's beautiful what you are doing and also its important to put on your own oxygen mask too. Part of that is going to your T today. 

I hope this is something you can bring up with her and get some support or guidance on. 

 

Phenomenal progress and Happy Birthday! It IS a miracle

Definitely, Blueberry. I always thought I just had bad hand/eye coordination but then I participated in a trauma workshop that incorporated yoga and I noticed how strong the connection was between whether I could follow simple movements and how triggered and dissociated I was.

Im really glad people could join and found it to be useful. Like you Blueberry it was like no other yoga I've been too and it really felt trauma informed to me. No pressure and choice like you said. And other even slow or beginner yoga are too fasy to manage with the dissociative disconnect. Just figuring out which arm im supposed to move let alone all the other stuff going on in yoga is too much.

Teddy Bear,

They have these classes all the time but you have to register and pay a nominal fee...I can't remember how much...maybe $2USD or $10USD per session on a donation basis.

It can be hard to find the info though. Here's the link to sign up.

https://www.healwithcfte.org/classes

Hi. If you are able to read (ie focus on reading), one book I found really helpful in understanding dissociation was Janina Fisher's book Understanding the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors, or something like that.

Don't worry about the categories and diagnoses so much. They aren't that clean and clear cut anyway.

Figuring out how to identify when dissociation is starting and how to get yourself out of it once you notice it is more helpful in my experience. And then eventually figuring out what has triggered a dissociative episode and then working on processing those issues slowly.

Another resource I love is the website DIS-SOS.