This is a follow-on to Part 1 (http://cptsd.org/forum/index.php?topic=8350.0) and Part 2 (http://cptsd.org/forum/index.php?topic=6252.0).
Tell us about three good things in your day today :yes:
I got a one hour deep-tissue massage.
I realized the massage therapy is helping my physical pain very well.
I realized my massage therpist is my FRIEND.
1) I finally had a shower and I used a scented shower gel (2 points for self-care)
2) I had a really useful therapy session
3) I took the time to go for a little walk in the early evening sun
1) I was at choir practice this evening and now my head is full of what we were singing
2) It was a somewhat different group of people from usual with stronger singers and much easier for me to join in and find the correct notes with my voice :)
3) Spent quite a bit of time in the garden today puttering about, picking flowers etc.
4) I set a limit today without any JADEing :thumbup: and it was accepted.
5) I haven't read all new posts today, and I've responded to even fewer even though at least one particular I think 'I should'. But not going to!
Excited to see this thread need another page :cheer: Honestly feel good about having contributed this to the forum on what I thought would be a useless idea.
1. I am back in my city and it feels great
2. My job interview went well. I likely have to decide between two
3. I just practiced flute for an hour and it feels wonderful. I allowed myself to start a fresh practice journal, one that I have written "no pressure" on top of as a reminder to myself.
4. (I know I have a lot of these) I found car insurance for the car i get tomorrow!
5. Work went well today, it was great to see some of my coworkers.
6. I got to admire downtown and really start to envision myself working there.
1) Still singing a bit in my head from Thursday
2) I visited the neighbour's baby for a bit and played with him, cooed over him etc :)
3) I made it to the market just in time to get a few food items off the farm people :)
1) I got up early enough to go to church (quite novel atm on Sundays) and the service and singing did me good.
2) I spent a lot of time in the garden today, just relaxing, doing crosswords, dozing and watching the Furries I'm looking after atm
3) Conscious decision not to actually work in the garden or even pick weeds for me or grass for the Furries - just relax and be because Sunday is a day of rest :)
1) Got pleasure from mowing the lawn
2) Joined some friends at their sewing/knitting group, but I did colouring in instead
3) Went for a cycle
4) Put the Little Furries out in the garden this morning before they got collected again and taken home
5) Did a little cleaning
6) It didn'T rain though it was forecast in the afternoon
1. Two new knees
2. Being able to go for a bike ride in the warm sunshine (haven't ridden in quite a long time)
3. Smelling flowers and fresh cut grass as I rode along
1. Played sports outside on a beautiful day
2. Slept in
3. Went grocery shopping
1) Got in from choir practice with my head full of singing
2) Felt so energetic in early morning that I got up, had a shower and washed my hair without any struggle
3) I did my work well today.
4) I'm realising that the place where I enquired about a job today might be too difficult, I might not be able to keep up the pace. The Good Thing is: this realisation is not throwing me for a loop, no EF. Just the idea in my head: then I'll keep going freelance and see what else I might find. Progress :cheer:
1) Went to a board game group this afternoon
2) Did some longer-term cleaning this evening, both in my apartment and in apt building communal space
3) Had a doc appointment today and while I was giving him the rundown of my improvements in last little while I realised I'm actually making a fair bit of progress atm :cheer:
1) Had one of my last singing lessons today and noted further improvement :)
2) Afterwards I played keyboard and sang some more
3) Did some more cleaning and tidying.
1)I have really been enjoying yoga a lot lately
2) my new found freedom of having a car is brilliant
3) I got approval for my new apartment downtown. I am very excited about the lifestyle that will come with that. :cheer:
From yesterday:
1) I went on a group outing to an interactive art gallery :)
2) We were driving through really pretty countryside
3) Then we went to a bird park, which also had a group of barbary macaques, which you could go in amongst and feed.
4) I have never dared to feed an animal before off the palm of my hand but I overcame the fear and tried it out :cheer:
5) It was unproblematic - the macaques had very good manners and no scratchy claws!
6) The group outing was almost completely free, otherwise it's not something I could afford, and these weren't places I could get to normally without a car.
From today:
1) I had some realisations today on waking up and a little while ago in the garden
2) We had board games group this afternoon, it was fun.
3) Puttering around in the garden, doing a little weeding, picking and eating weeds as well as some ripe strawberries.
4) Taking the time to write this instead of responding to other mbrs' posts
1) Packing is going well!! :cheer: T-minus 4 days until the big day!
2) I have responsibly figured out my finances and communicated with the correct people. This has always been a large struggle and I am finally beginning to learn to face it. Big step for me
3) My cats are my favorite, being sweet and mischievous in their attempt to help me pack. They really are troopers with all the disruptions.
4) I am finally driving my stick shift well! Only took a week ;D
5) I am starting to feel like I am pulling this new adventure off
I recognised that I was being pushed around by my Flight side, and in danger of getting into an unhealthy Flight rut.
I've successfully escaped a short-term but damaging abusive relationship! That wasn't today, but I keep feeling grateful and happy for it, and reminding myself that I did good when the inner critic tries to echo all of the abuser's words.
I'm home and can relax and eat dinner.
Wow, Elpha! Tons of progress in there :cheer: :cheer:
My 3 Good Things:
1) The post I made yesterday on Outer Critic - I feel it was very brave to write it and leave it up because it shows a not very nice part of me.
2) I was able to come to conclusions today about the OCr. post and move forward - I feel lighter and less of a bad person. It's OK I'm on this earth.
3) Two are enough. The rest are in my Journal.
Definitely need to focus on positives today, struggling a little and the inner critic is active.
1) I am actually achieving my dream job - okay I'm not hired, I haven't even completed my training and it'll take years of work to gain and develop all the skills, but I am actually doing what I wanted to do!!
2) I worked on not allowing an unpleasant Narc's comments, that were intended to undermind me, get to me.
3) I have one decent relationship with a close member of FOO who cares about me, and I'm thankful for our relationship.
That sounds like a brave thing to do to me too Blueberry. We can all be less than nice at times, or even down right horrible, I think. Dealing with those times productively/healthy and not by shaming ourselves when those times happen seems very important. It's not a worse or better part of the equation than the inner critic I guess, seeing as either side of the coin views people as worthy of shameless attacks. Only difference is who the attack gets directed at, ourselves or other people. It's funny now I think about it (not ha-ha funny), since by feeling less ashamed about the inner critic I guess that means I think I deserve to be treated in ways that I wouldn't want treat others.
I really need to focus on Good Things for a moment too:
1) I got up and did get to my job
2) The sun is shining and I was in the garden briefly
3) At least, realisations are beginning to come through
4) I thought my monitor was on the bleep but I got it working again :cheer:
Love the question... let's see..
1.. Well I was very busy today and did a lot of cleaning and thinking
2.. I discovered that perhaps I maybe not alone in this whole world
3.. And I found out over 5 million of us have suffered.. that was a shocker.. I cried with mixed feelings..
1)Today is moving day!
2) Today is my last day at my barista job
3) I have help moving tonight!!
A few more:
1) I enjoyed my cycle up to the farm, past the green hillsides and all the colourful wild flowers blooming, even some of the scents I picked up on riding past :)
2) I got through my work on the farm, bit by bit, and although I wasn't able to work quickly at all, it was methodical work almost meditative in which I get better grounded and can begin to sort myself better.
3) They gave me some honey, which isn't usual, not one of their normal products.
4) The soup for my late lunch and supper was good.
5) It was still warmish and dry on my ride home
1. I picked up my printed phone pictures.
2. I enjoyed a milkshake
3. I bought a new big boy bed for my son.
1) I enjoyed my cycle to and from the farm today too, same conditions as yesterday - sun, green hillsides, scent of flowers I passed by, colourful flowers.
2) Work at the farm continued to ground me
3) When I got home I picked a bunch of herbs and weeds and edible flowers in order to make herb and flower preserves - a new recipe to try. It's cooling atm :)
1) Got up reasonably early and went to church
2) Did some gardening I'd been intending to do for a while and also picked flowers to bring in
3) Went to choir practise and to sing in other church service and sang lustily and didn't care whether in tune or not :) - it did me good. I'm still singing in my head
4) Did some more weed/herb preserving
1. I texted an old friend
2. A mantra card helped reassure me
3. I played fetch with my dog
1) apartment is all moved over
2) First day at my new job is going well
3) I have finally gotten sleep
This is my first post here at OOTS - I saw this thread and I absolutely love this idea and this energy!
My three things:
1. Finding this site and signing up to post in the forum
2. My cat cuddling with me and purring
3. My new watercolor paints arrived (i am using artwork as a non-verbal form of expression, as a way of discovering who I really am without all the CPTSD coping strategies that I recently discovered comprise the majority of who I thought I was)
Much love to all you beautiful souls.
(Welcome to the forum, Athena!)
Athena911,
Welcome to oots :heythere: I am so glad you found this place and this thread. It is something of my own creation that I have been amazed took off.
I look forwarf to reading more from you
1) Really, really good therapy session today. My T validated me, my thoughts, the decision I have made.
2) My decision: I'm not fighting anymore for a 'real' job in the 'normal' workforce. I'm accepting me and my limitations and shrugging off internal and external expectations. :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: Huge step for me.
3) After therapy I went to the lakeshore and went in up to my knees and just stood: looking at the view, talking to the ducks, enjoying the sun and feeling the waves lapping against my legs ;D And i also sang a hymn from choir on Sunday that seemed stuck in my head, over and over again under my breath. Joy. :yes:
1) I didn't give up on my work or myself when everything seemed to be in a mess, and things went really well!
2) I made the decision to work with a competent, helpful person.
3) I realised that my parts are struggling with internal conflict that's difficult to resolve... I've been doing a lot of inner reflection lately.
1) My singing lesson went really well today. I was much less self-conscious than last week which makes a huge difference. I improved some, I was able to hear constructive criticism and act on it without first having to pause and repeat out loud for myself that I was making progress or that the notes had been correct, but I needed to improve on something else.
2) I puttered around in the garden, picking off dead-heads of plants I don't want anymore of, and crushing underdeveloped raspberries with worms inside.
3) I paid a bill that came today right away.
4) I feel happy :) without any kind of specific reason.
1. I worked through binge urges for 6 hours
2. I walked my dog late in evening and saw beautiful sun setting over the field
3. I browsed some magazines in a shop I had never ventured into before
(But didn't buy one haha!)
Quote from: Laura90 on June 22, 2018, 07:38:54 AM
1. I worked through binge urges for 6 hours
Wow! :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: Good going!
1) Late last night I had a good chat with a friend I hadn't spoken to for a while
2) I enjoyed cycling in the sun today, looking at the colourful flowers
3) I visited a little group of friends this evening and we played some games.
1) I made it through my first week at my new job.
2) I have made some new friends there
3) I am taking self care to rest tonight
1) I got up, though it was difficult, took my meds, had breakfast
2) I went on the guided rose tour, saw lots of roses and smelt them and learnt about them
3) I stood up for myself and my boundaries
Quote from: Blueberry on June 23, 2018, 09:48:12 PM
3) I stood up for myself and my boundaries
Amazing! Go you :thumbup:
This week:
1) Went to an interview and kicked *
2) Went for a walk/"hike" in a forest near me two days in a row
3) Made some drawings
4) Went to the cinema despite difficult day
5) Went to the threatre despite difficult day
I need to do this right now because I'm struggling a bit.
1. I went for a hike in the woods.
2. My son took a nice nap
3. I baked some lemon bars
1) Finished a book for book club -- good to finish something
2) Went shopping for food with my daughter
3) Got a message from my son who is traveling - I miss him
4) Did a short yoga routine at the end of which I almost fell asleep which means I was truly relaxed
1) I just got a bunch of emails written and sent (something I tend to struggle with)
2) I saw lots of beautiful flowers growing today and I smelled some of their scent in passing
3) I sang a bit
1) I went for a little cycle in the early evening sun and delivered a few items here and there
2) I also stopped by a gone-wild cherry tree I saw the other week and picked a large handful of cherries. They tasted good :) and I was able to satisfy my gatherer instincts
3) Before I mopped a communal area of the building I live in, I mopped my own kitchen floor. :cheer: :thumbup: to self-care
1) I washed some of my windows and the change is clearly visible! :cheer:
2) I picked and ate cherries in the garden today, stood on an old chair to reach as many as possible. No one else seems to want them and they're just falling off one by one, so I dared to take those I could reach.
3) I went to choir practice tonight even though very tired. Did me good.
1) I'm getting better at telling people of my decision to accept my inability to work. I can look them in the eye now e.g.
2) It's raining finally which the garden needs
3) I set a boundary towards an acquaintance today who seemed to think it appropriate to suggest my landlords might be kicking me out sooner rather than later. There's no point worrying about that atm and I told her so. And other people worrying about it 'for me' in my presence is not useful. She stopped. :cheer:
1) Yesterday when I got a request to put somebody up on my floor tonight, I agreed. A couple of hours ago the person phoned to cancel. I'm happy about the cancellation.
2) Spent most of the day dozing and doing crossword puzzles
3) Had an appointment about work and my disability pension and was told categorically that my farm work is not a problem. It is not illegal work. So I don't have to find some way of getting it registered. :thumbup:
4) Had a dentist appointment and there wasn't much wrong in my mouth! Just one very small filling necessary. I did well, keeping my eyes closed mostly and just concentrating on my breathing.
I haven't come here in far to long.
1) my holiday was fantastic
2) I am grateful for warm coffee today
3) the first half of my work day has flown by
1) I cycled this morning for 10 mins and it felt really grounding
2) I drove a bit more
3) I was able to work out my feelings about something
1) I am working through my minor concussion with lots of self care
2) I have wonderful watermelon in my apartment, it is one of my favorite summer time treats
3) I am a quarter of the way done with my work day, more than I made it through with the head injury on Friday
1) I ate a bunch of red and blackcurrants today, raw just the way I like them
2) I finally delivered invoice for the job I gave up, and handed back the materials I still had
3) On the way I took a little walk by the river
4) Somebody from whom I was waiting for a decision has made it, so now I can move on with my plans
1) Realisation: it's good my landlords have only just started garden upheaval this year because I'm emotionally much better equipped for it even than last year, in fact month by month things are getting better I'd say. So probably better now even than in May.
2) I've been picking my berries and cutting things back e.g. this years' rasp canes. So at least I've finally got on with it :cheer:
3) yesterday when SIL's image buzzed into my head, I immediately replaced that with my little niece. A bit like thought-stopping. SIL isn't the one I want contact with if I can help it; it's my niece, so why not think of her?
4) Today I got out of bed and got going earlier than yesterday
1) Today is a new day and a chance to have a good one
2) We played catch phrase in my morning meeting
3) My support system is truly wonderful
4)I am finding I have support from my new coworkers as well.
1) I have really kind new coworkers
2) I am listening to my body today
3) Think I have identified an emotional flashback. It took me a while to get to the conclusion but I now recognize what is happening
1) I went to sunrise yoga this morning. It was a beautiful and grounding practice for me.
2) the rain outside feels cleansing to both the earth and me personally. Like it can start to wash of some of the last few weeks
3) I forgot my lunch at home and did not shame myself about it today. I instead knew there is a lot in my brain and that happens. There are other simple methods for me to get food today.
1) I did chores.
2) I journalled further about my ongoing enmeshed/codependent relationship with my M - she isn't taking my attempts at gaining space well.
3) I'm trying to allow myself to feel miserable and protect my right to be unhappy.
1) I've just sent reminder emails to both my parents and my landlord on getting back to me on financial issues. :cheer:
2) Went on a nice cycle this morning
3) Slept a lot of the afternoon :thumbup: The really tired sore eyes I had the past few days have gone. i'm feeling better rested.
1) I came here and remembered that it's good to be supportive and encouraging to myself. I'm trying my best in a tricky situation, and I've mostly just got to rely on myself. Good on me for what I've done so far!
2) I'm going to try getting to sleep a bit earlier tonight.
3) I've processed a lot about my M, and I shouldn't beat myself up for not having all the answers yet. :)
1) I tidied and cleaned my kitchen table and surroundings. It looks much better. I can see the whole table surface ;D
2) I've just been over at a friend's who is away for the weekend. I got to use her bath and pet her animals.
3) I went to church this evening and enjoyed the singing.
1) I worked at the farm today which usually makes me feel good. Today no exception. I was outside on the veg plot soaking up the sun.
2) I enjoyed my cycle there and back as well.
3) I asked my student this evening for feedback on the past year and it's all good :)
1. I went to the doctors on my own
2. I managed to recognise pain / irritation inside of me at being overlooked and bypassed
3. I went to OA group this week when I did have slight justifying thoughts to not bother this week
Wow, lots of good things happening - love this thread! I am closing out Part 3 and opening Part 4 just to keep it to 5 pages.