The problem ... not enough friends
The want ... more friends
I think ... there is something wrong with me
The frustration .. there is something wrong with me, but what is it ?
Hi, me again with my continuing 'how do I make more friends saga '
Lately I'm thinking 'is it my trust problems, problems letting people 'in' letting people know me
I can socialise and people do seem to like me .. it's just how to get beyond that ...
am I just being unrealistic - wanting too much ? Needy ?
Oh I don't know it's all so confusing ...??
Historically I've always just had a hand full of close friends .. now I'm in my 40's this is a bit less - I have 3 close friends in the whole country
What draws people to human beings ??
Do we need to 'sell ourselves ' like a shop window ? Is self confidence a real factor in making friends ?
What qualities do I have ? Am I too aloof - emotionally resistive to letting people in ??
How do I change ? What do I even need to change ?
Apologies lots of questions they are ones I'm asking myself as I write -
I don't expect answers
But people's experience on this subject is very welcome !
My old therapist said relationships are the area that cptsd people find the hardest area ...
I wish I'd asked her how we go about healing this .. the relational stuff
People have described me as open and friendly and funny so what the * is missing in me ...
I'd like more attachments - more invites out -- one of those 'popular people '
Or do I subject myself to the fact I'm just not and can't be
I've been in Aa 7yrs and I don't have the close network that some others have .. I know a lot of people but not in a closer way
The want ... more friends
I think ... there is something wrong with me
The frustration .. there is something wrong with me, but what is it ?
Hi, me again with my continuing 'how do I make more friends saga '
Lately I'm thinking 'is it my trust problems, problems letting people 'in' letting people know me
I can socialise and people do seem to like me .. it's just how to get beyond that ...
am I just being unrealistic - wanting too much ? Needy ?
Oh I don't know it's all so confusing ...??
Historically I've always just had a hand full of close friends .. now I'm in my 40's this is a bit less - I have 3 close friends in the whole country
What draws people to human beings ??
Do we need to 'sell ourselves ' like a shop window ? Is self confidence a real factor in making friends ?
What qualities do I have ? Am I too aloof - emotionally resistive to letting people in ??
How do I change ? What do I even need to change ?
Apologies lots of questions they are ones I'm asking myself as I write -
I don't expect answers
But people's experience on this subject is very welcome !
My old therapist said relationships are the area that cptsd people find the hardest area ...
I wish I'd asked her how we go about healing this .. the relational stuff
People have described me as open and friendly and funny so what the * is missing in me ...
I'd like more attachments - more invites out -- one of those 'popular people '
Or do I subject myself to the fact I'm just not and can't be
I've been in Aa 7yrs and I don't have the close network that some others have .. I know a lot of people but not in a closer way