Newly joined

[Westman]

1st post, all very new to me, quietly hopeful and grateful to find a forum like this. I'm 52 and thought things were going a bit better in life, then what felt like 'out of the blue' being confronted by my wife that she thinks I'm part of a multi generational trauma family which is affecting her to such an extent that she likely to need to leave the situation. I really understand her perspective. I recognised possible CPTSD a few years ago when she raised this then thought that could not really be me, or did not really have insight. I'm now re reading lots of John Bradshaw and Pete Walker and it 'ticks all the boxes' but I still have imposter syndrome feeling. We are at a crisis point in marriage and crossroads and the world feels upside down and quite disorienting as in another way nothing has changed. Thank you for accepting my request to join. I hope to understand more, seek support and to feel a bit less alone. Thank you.

[Blueberry]

Welcome to the forum, Westman 

[NarcKiddo]

Welcome. I am sorry you are a a crisis point in your marriage and I hope you and your wife can find a way to work things out, if that is what both of you would like to happen.

[Chart]

Westman, So sorry to hear your situation. Sending support and welcome. -Chart
 

[TheBigBlue]

Welcome. I'm really glad you found your way here.
What you wrote resonated with me: that strange mix of something suddenly "making sense," while at the same time feeling disoriented or even like an impostor. Many of us have had that moment of thinking, "This fits ... but do I really count?" It's more common than you'd think.

And facing the possibility of CPTSD at the same time as a crisis in your marriage is a lot for any nervous system. It makes complete sense that everything feels upside down.

It takes real courage to look at patterns that have been there for a long time and to want to understand them rather than turn away. You're not alone here. Many of us arrived feeling confused, hopeful, scared, or all of the above.

I'm glad you joined. Take your time, read a bit, post when and if you feel ready.
There's room here for all of it: the uncertainty, the grief, the hope, and the quiet steps forward. 

[Westman]

Thank you for your replies, gratefully received, means a lot