Fawning

[NarcKiddo]

Dr Ingrid Clayton has written a new book about Fawning.

I have not read it (yet)but I have seen a couple of interview videos she has done with Patrick Teahan. The latest discusses the book and issues surrounding fawning, and is well worth a watch. (Trigger warning: it has some references to sexual grooming and SA)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yY7-njK7kiM

[Hope67]

Thanks for sharing this NarcKiddo, I only watched part of it, but I hope to come back and watch more, it was definitely interesting and I related to it.

[SenseOrgan]

Thanks for dropping that here NK! Clayton nailed it in the first four seconds of the vid. I'm looking forward to reading her book(s).

[Kizzie]

Wow, she talks about relational trauma right from the get go!  Tks for this NK, I will add it to the Books section.

[SenseOrgan]

Clayton shares five key insights from her book here.

[Desert Flower]

Thank you, very helpful.

[Marcine]

Wow, thanks for the recommendation, folks. I've requested Clayton's Fawning from the library. Looking forward to reading it.

[Marcine]

I finished reading the book and recommend it. Very relatable with lots of her experience as a therapist and as a trauma survivor.
She refers to Pete Walker's work as well as connecting many dots that have relevance to all of us in this world that demands and rewards fawning.

[dollyvee]

This was really valid for me especially the part about being connected to self (or how I'm interpreting it through an IFS lens), and what happens during a therapy session where one wants to earnestly "do good" so they can get better, but also don't feel like they have access to the things the therapist is talking about. Been there. I also relate to treating the therapist as the one that has all the answers and wonder if some of the struggle now between my t and I is me trying to assert more of myself, and her not necessarily being in that position any more. Would like to read the book as well.

edit: oh! I just realized that she also wrote, Believing Me, which I really related to and found helpful.