My Sister and Physical Abuse

[BlueMoon_]

I'm pretty sure my sister hit me and stuff more when we were younger but I can't remember for sure. But nowadays she does more covert stuff like touching me in other ways I dislike including poking, tickling, grabbing, etc.

But a more overt example happened a couple summers ago. I'm just going to vent it here because I haven't told the story to anyone outside of my family.

She had been bullying me a lot that summer, and it was getting really annoying, but one day we started getting along, and so decided to do an activity together. We started painting pictures together at the dining room table.

At first it was completely normal and serene, and I was having a good time. We were laughing and talking. Then suddenly my sister got up and walked behind me and grabbed me by the neck from behind painfully. I think she said something to me but I forget it, I guess because of dissociation.

Anyway, after that she went back to her seat like nothing happened. I got up and told my mom about it. When my mom confronted my sister she started crying, saying how I didn't even seem mad about it and she was just joking, and my mom didn't punish her because she always believes her when she cries for some reason.

I really don't get why she's so obsessed with hurting me. I fear maybe I did something mean to her as kids I can't recall and now she wants  to punish me forever or something. Weird.

[Kizzie]

An angry sibling in a dysfunctional, abusive family and parents who don't hold children accountable for behaviour like this is common sadly.

This seems to be something that happened a few summers back. Is she still behaving the same way towards you?

[BlueMoon_]

An angry sibling in a dysfunctional, abusive family and parents who don't hold children accountable for behaviour like this is common sadly.

This seems to be something that happened a few summers back. Is she still behaving the same way towards you?

She hasn't done anything physical so far but I haven't spend much time around her this summer for obvious reasons.

[Blueberry]

I'm sorry your sister behaves this way to you and your mother doesn't take it seriously.

I really don't get why she's so obsessed with hurting me. I fear maybe I did something mean to her as kids I can't recall and now she wants  to punish me forever or something. Weird.

If you had done something mean to her when you were kids, I'm guessing she's old enough now to speak up about that and ask for what she needs e.g. an apology instead of ambushing you and getting physical. Then the two of you could lay it to rest.

I doubt that that is what it is, though. My elder brother was physically abusive to me through most of my childhood and teenage years. My parents didn't take it seriously even though they saw it happen some of the time. Dysfunctional families are like that unfortunately.

I'm glad you're able to write about it here at least.