Help Us to Keep OOTS Safe & Respectful: How & Why to Report a Post

[Kizzie]

Please help us to keep OOTS a safe, considerate and respectful community by reporting any posts that contravene our Member Guidelines. Some of the more common problems we see include:

•   No trigger warning is given when one is needed
•   The post contains overly graphic detail
•   Telling another member what they should do (versus suggesting a strategy, sharing what worked for them)
•   The tone of the post is Inappropriate tone (defensive, argumentative, disrespectful...)
•   The post hijacks the thread (turns attention away from the original post/poster)
•   Posting about wanting to commit suicide or engage in serious self-harm

All you need to do is click on the "Report to Moderator" button on the lower right hand side of the post, make a comment about what it is that you think is questionable or problematic when the dialogue box pops us, and the Moderating Team will take it from there.  Please note that we never reveal to anyone outside the team who has reported a post. 

If you have any questions about the above, please feel free to PM one of the Moderation Team.

Thank you!

Kizzie

[TScott]

How do you find what triggers you?

[Auro-Rin]

How do you find what triggers you?

I guess if you read a post and then you get really upset by it you're triggered. The problem is I suppose anything could be a trigger seeing as we can't predict how others will respond emotionally to our output. I don't tend to get triggered but I've noticed I trigger people just by posting what's on my mind...so much so that an entire forum was removed from the last group I joined. Technically I wrote nothing "wrong" so they couldn't remove the post but so many were "triggered" they opted to take down the entire forum. Maybe if I typed TW!!!! Before the offending words the forum might still be active

[Kizzie]

In terms of what triggers you, that's quite personal but you will likely notice feelings arise such anxiety, fear, anger, sadness ....  I don't know how far along you are in recovery but as survivors go along they typically figure out what is a trigger and why. You can bring that to your therapist and/or bring it up in a post here to help with that.

In terms of writing things that are triggering for others, as Auto-Rin suggests anything can be a trigger but what we're referring to here are the things that are more obvious triggers for survivors of relational abuse. One of these is overly graphic detail as we have noted in the member guidelines. So this means going into great detail about physical or sexual abuse rather than writing about what happened in general terms. That kind of detail is best left to therapy in private with someone who is trained to help and who knows how to manage any secondary trauma they may experience by hearing about the abuse.

If anyone is ever unsure about what they are writing about they can always PM me and check it out. Also, we have the Report to Moderator button on the lower right hand side of posts so that community members themselves can let me know if a post is questionable.

Kizzie