Flashback to Being Touched Without Consent - Tickled, Poked, etc.

[BlueMoon_]

My younger sister, even now at the age of 18, always touches me in annoying ways without my consent to get under my nerves. She has tickled me, poked me, grabbed my face, slapped by buttocks, etc.

It got to the point where I wouldn't even tell her to stop, half because I knew she already knew I didn't like it, half because I knew she wouldn't listen.

Now, sometimes when I feel powerless, I will almost feel the sensation of being tickled under my arms. Specifically the tickling has had the worst effect on me.

We don't live in the same house anymore and I mostly see her on holidays so I haven't experienced it for a while thankfully.

[Kizzie]

You know Blue Moon you are well within your rights to tell her that as an adult she needs to listen to you and hear how all her physicality bothered you, how helpless you felt by her actions.

Most people around her age want to be considered as adults so if you can connect with that part it may just resonate with her, and if not right away then some point in the future.

The benefit for you is to speak about this issue, let it out and let it be known how badly it made you feel. Even if the other person doesn't give us the response we'd like, we have taken control and stood up for ourselves and that can defuel the feelings/memories somewhat.