Jessica Baum - Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Rel...

[SenseOrgan]

Jessica Baum - Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships

A guide to fostering more security, intimacy, and peace in our relationships, and in ourselves, by the author of Anxiously Attached

The topic of attachment theory has never been hotter. The hashtag #attachmentstyle has appeared more than a billion times on social media—but going beyond simple types to uncover how you developed your unique attachment patterns and why you relate to others as you do is where the deepest insights can be revealed. In this empathic and practical guide, therapist Jessica Baum sheds light on the unprocessed attachment wounds that cause us to live in survival mode—and offers a roadmap for building safe relationships that can become the foundation for true healing.

You'll discover what fulfilling, joyful, secure love feels like and how to cultivate it using simple techniques that will help you move from "fight or flight" mode to a place of trust, fulfillment, and true closeness with the people you care about most.

Drawing on the brain science behind why we tend to repeat old, painful patterns, therapist Jessica Baum shows you how to move toward relationships that provide the deeper connection, safety, and trust we all long for, in every area of our lives.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/224082696-safe

[zen_racer]

Thank you for this post SenseOrgan. It seems very timely for me with what I've been working on/dealing with. I will definitely be checking this one out.

[SenseOrgan]

zen_racer
My pleasure! I'm a couple of hours into the audio book. It's great. Very warm and wise. I don't think the description at goodreads does the book justice. Baum trained with Bonnie Badenoch and wrote the book in consultation with her. She also refers to Iain McGilchrist as a mentor at a distance. She has a unique perspective, which is very heart centered.



"What makes Safe so powerful is its gentle depth. Jessica Baum invites us to hold our protective patterns with reverence while guiding us toward true connection. This is attachment work for people ready to reclaim their story — and their worth."
--Dr. Ingrid Clayton, author of Fawning

[Kizzie]

I'm curious if she names complex relational trauma and/or complex PTSD as causes of attachment wounding? 

[SenseOrgan]

To be honest, I don't remember if she used these terms in the part that I listened to. I'll keep this in the back of my mind for the remainder and report back when I've finished the book. And I'll make it a habit for books that I'll read in the future. I'd be happy to extend the list of terms to pay attention to if that's helpful Kizzie.

[Kizzie]

Sure thing as if they do include complex trauma, complex relational trauma and/or complex PTSD I usually add them to the book list.

Tks!

[SenseOrgan]

Thus far Baum addressed developmental trauma and attachment trauma, and referred to BPD as complex relational trauma if I'm not mistaken. She also goes into the "traumatic attachment" essence of narcissism, which I think can be a valuable perspective in a survivor's healing that I haven't come across elsewhere. Something else I appreciate about her thinking, is that she acknowledges most of us have a mixture of attachment styles onboard. It's been frustrating to me I was never able to define my attachment style. That's probably because that concept is too far removed from the organic shifting that happens in real life. Baum speaks my language. Imho she talks about complex relational trauma, even though she mostly uses other terminology.

[Kizzie]

Tks SO 

[zen_racer]

Just thought this was relevant.