Hello

[Onward upward]

Hi All:

I am glad to find this board. Seems like a rough topic to form connections over for a person like me. I try to keep as private with my struggles as possible. However, as I am trying to leave yet another NPD guy and going through a battle in family court to try to protect my 3 year old daughter from her NPD father, changing for the better is my new life.

Briefly, my mom has NPD. Physical, verbal abuse and neglect (leading to childhood sexual abuse) wildly varying with unrealistic expectations for vicarious achievement left me quite a mess.  Hence the C-PTSD. I have spent several years in counseling with the goal of being a healthier and happier (whole) person. It has been a long hard road. Hopefully, the journey to come will be a little bit easier.

Best Regards,
Moving onward and upward.

[Trees]

Welcome, Onward upward.  How wonderful that you are so motivated to seek healing for the sake of your daughter. 

Your description of your mom reminds me a lot of my own mother, so you certainly have my sympathy!  It really is a long hard road dealing with that kind of thing.  We are here together on this site to provide support and compassion for each other as we each try to journey toward healing.

All the best to you.   

[MaryAnn]

Hi Onward Upward  ,

You have my sincerest empathy.  I have a NPD father and have limited contact with him.  I am sorry that you also have a parent that is NPD.  Emotional and physical abuse is horrible enough, but to experience sexual abuse by your family is something that no child should ever have to suffer.  I was sexually abused but not by family. My experience was with another kid my own age that molested me over a course of a few years.  As a result, I was very promiscuous through my teenage years and was sexually abused several times over about 10 years.  Lucky to actually still be here because I got myself into some very dangerous situations.

You are a wonderful mother and keep fighting to protect your daughter.  If your childhood was anything like mine, and sounds like is was or worse, then I understand completely wanting to do everything possible to keep her distanced from her father.  My mom did not protect me from my father's abuse and many times participated in it.  There are many here at OOTS that will be able to relate and provide support as you continue on your journey of recovery.

MaryAnn