Welcome Glenna,
I experienced severe neglect as a child and severe domestic abuse as an adult. I am a writer as well, but when I started to write things about the abuse, my anxiety ramped way up to 100%, and I am considering quitting writing altogether. This makes me sad, as it is my passion. I do not have much of a support system at home, but I was hoping I could find some support here with others who suffer. I will admit that I need some hands to hold on to right now.
WE have a lot in commom Glenna. I also suffered severe neglect, some physical abuse, and LOTS of emotional abuse during MY childhood.
I do not have a support system either. I am also a writer! I used to moderate for a game on Facebook. I did not know I liked to write until I started posting on that gamesite. Then they ask me to be the moderater. I sometimes do have a problem with reading all the things I read on OOTF and sometimes here. I put it down for awhile and then go back to it. I guess the mind can only take so much!
I am so sorry for the lose of Your hubby. I know how devastating that must be. I bet you have a lot of mixed feelings. I mean personally although I don't want my NPDH to drop dead, I think that it would be easier. On the other hand that brings on a new set of problems to deal with!
I honestly don't know how to approach it either. I do find that it is easier to Read about others experiences. Practical advice works better for me. I have felt like I have had more healing reading others expriences and how the handled situations I am in. I also feel I have some hope, I thought I'd always be mentally ill and feeling like this. I actualyl have some good time in each day. I am not as critical to Myself as I used to be.
Kizzy,
I know how the attacks feel as I just went through a really bad patch of them in the spring after a pile on of stressors overwhelmed me. I couldn't even get out of bed some days
I was in bed from March until most of June. Just so depressed! So sorry you went through that. My NPH hubby doesn't understand it all. He has all this work lined up that I need to do. I am just out of it. The main job is to empty out a mobile home that I own so that It can be moved out. the work is not so hard .. but the emotions I am gong through are hard for me. I have things in there that have been stored since 2006. I used to have dreams that I would have a house with NPDH and so much stuff relates to those dreams! I guess the dreams are gone now!
One therapist I saw when I was having the panic atacks gave me a little exercise that I found quite useful. She told me to picture a container in my mind, a box or whatever and see myself putting the things that were making me panic in the container one by one and tell myself "I will come back to you later," close the container and put it somewhere in my house. I'm not great with these kinds of exercise -- always worry I won't do them perfectly, but I gave it a shot and it did help. I guess it's a way of telling ourselves, nope we're not avoiding or stuffing the things that are causing us pain or to be afraid, we are just going put them away and will deal with them when we're ready, preferably a little at a time. It takes some of pressure off us to deal with everything right now.
I am going to try this.. do you think It will work with chores I need to do? MY NPD like always has lists of stuff I need to do! It is overwelming to me. I also have this Perfection thing going on in my head... so that also leads to procrastination
I put up the link that You provided and I am going to read that!
I experienced severe neglect as a child and severe domestic abuse as an adult. I am a writer as well, but when I started to write things about the abuse, my anxiety ramped way up to 100%, and I am considering quitting writing altogether. This makes me sad, as it is my passion. I do not have much of a support system at home, but I was hoping I could find some support here with others who suffer. I will admit that I need some hands to hold on to right now.
WE have a lot in commom Glenna. I also suffered severe neglect, some physical abuse, and LOTS of emotional abuse during MY childhood.
I do not have a support system either. I am also a writer! I used to moderate for a game on Facebook. I did not know I liked to write until I started posting on that gamesite. Then they ask me to be the moderater. I sometimes do have a problem with reading all the things I read on OOTF and sometimes here. I put it down for awhile and then go back to it. I guess the mind can only take so much!
I am so sorry for the lose of Your hubby. I know how devastating that must be. I bet you have a lot of mixed feelings. I mean personally although I don't want my NPDH to drop dead, I think that it would be easier. On the other hand that brings on a new set of problems to deal with!
I honestly don't know how to approach it either. I do find that it is easier to Read about others experiences. Practical advice works better for me. I have felt like I have had more healing reading others expriences and how the handled situations I am in. I also feel I have some hope, I thought I'd always be mentally ill and feeling like this. I actualyl have some good time in each day. I am not as critical to Myself as I used to be.
Kizzy,
I know how the attacks feel as I just went through a really bad patch of them in the spring after a pile on of stressors overwhelmed me. I couldn't even get out of bed some days
I was in bed from March until most of June. Just so depressed! So sorry you went through that. My NPH hubby doesn't understand it all. He has all this work lined up that I need to do. I am just out of it. The main job is to empty out a mobile home that I own so that It can be moved out. the work is not so hard .. but the emotions I am gong through are hard for me. I have things in there that have been stored since 2006. I used to have dreams that I would have a house with NPDH and so much stuff relates to those dreams! I guess the dreams are gone now!
One therapist I saw when I was having the panic atacks gave me a little exercise that I found quite useful. She told me to picture a container in my mind, a box or whatever and see myself putting the things that were making me panic in the container one by one and tell myself "I will come back to you later," close the container and put it somewhere in my house. I'm not great with these kinds of exercise -- always worry I won't do them perfectly, but I gave it a shot and it did help. I guess it's a way of telling ourselves, nope we're not avoiding or stuffing the things that are causing us pain or to be afraid, we are just going put them away and will deal with them when we're ready, preferably a little at a time. It takes some of pressure off us to deal with everything right now.
I am going to try this.. do you think It will work with chores I need to do? MY NPD like always has lists of stuff I need to do! It is overwelming to me. I also have this Perfection thing going on in my head... so that also leads to procrastination
I put up the link that You provided and I am going to read that!