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My mum forced her presence on me by forcing a visit. Apparently they are hurt and worried about me because I've cut off contact to an extent. I told the truth and asserted myself again. She done all the classic things, told me it only happened 6 times at most, she's always trying to rationalise and minimise it. She cringes at the word abuse because I wasn't battered black and blue (I was still hit just not bruised). She says she does agree it's abuse and it's not right, but she was still saying it's not severe abuse and she would call people arguing in the street verbal abuse too. She also said it's normal and happens in every household, basically. I wonder if that's true.
She says there's people treated much worse than me, which is an illogical point because you could say that about virtually anything. Like I could be kidnapped by a psychopath and have lots of evil things done but you could say, well the person who had that done to her AND her loved ones had it worse. That's an extreme example but yeah. It still hurt. Everything I am saying is still valid.
I brought up the time I took a panic attack and ran out the house without shoes on and apparently i didn't need to react like that. I explained I cannot help it, I cannot control the fact I am terrified of him, my brain has done this of its own accord due to events. That's not my fault and the way my brain reacts is actually affecting my life majorly. I told her I am getting therapy for this, because of the impact it has left.
She has went home and is clearly miserable.
She said they just want to put it in the past and he is sorry. Well he hasn't said it or acted to resolve things, has he? And I told her it's easy for them to put it in the past because they were not the victim.
I am becoming a lot more honest and assertive. I'm not proud because the truth hurts but I'm not ashamed either. What else is there to do, lie? It just hurts me. I need and deserve better.
My mum forced her presence on me by forcing a visit. Apparently they are hurt and worried about me because I've cut off contact to an extent. I told the truth and asserted myself again. She done all the classic things, told me it only happened 6 times at most, she's always trying to rationalise and minimise it. She cringes at the word abuse because I wasn't battered black and blue (I was still hit just not bruised). She says she does agree it's abuse and it's not right, but she was still saying it's not severe abuse and she would call people arguing in the street verbal abuse too. She also said it's normal and happens in every household, basically. I wonder if that's true.
She says there's people treated much worse than me, which is an illogical point because you could say that about virtually anything. Like I could be kidnapped by a psychopath and have lots of evil things done but you could say, well the person who had that done to her AND her loved ones had it worse. That's an extreme example but yeah. It still hurt. Everything I am saying is still valid.
I brought up the time I took a panic attack and ran out the house without shoes on and apparently i didn't need to react like that. I explained I cannot help it, I cannot control the fact I am terrified of him, my brain has done this of its own accord due to events. That's not my fault and the way my brain reacts is actually affecting my life majorly. I told her I am getting therapy for this, because of the impact it has left.
She has went home and is clearly miserable.
She said they just want to put it in the past and he is sorry. Well he hasn't said it or acted to resolve things, has he? And I told her it's easy for them to put it in the past because they were not the victim.
I am becoming a lot more honest and assertive. I'm not proud because the truth hurts but I'm not ashamed either. What else is there to do, lie? It just hurts me. I need and deserve better.