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Thanks for your reply, Blueberry. I never thought of it that way, I just assumed that everyone wants self care. I guess I triggered myself because I was forcing myself to do those things. The thing is, though, when I try to think of what I would want to do, like future plans, then I trigger myself again because it just reminds me of the questions that I always get asked from relatives and people.

Hi, yesterday and today I tried to do some "self-care" stuff. I intentionally told myself that I can do whatever I want that makes me feel calmer and better, like reading, watching videos, coloring. The thing is, that after 10 min or so, I get triggered, and then it takes me a while to "calm down". It's frustrating because I am trying to help myself, curl up in a blanket with my toys and read, but after some minutes I get triggered and feel so much worse than I started, like angry, tired, etc.
I just want to know if someone knows why this is happening to me, and what can I do to help, because I'm trying to soothe my inner self but I can't in the end.

Sorry, I meant to write that in the description it said that the T had some background in "trauma and phobias", not exactly C-ptsd. I just hope I am not the only one who feels burdened and struggles when trying to find the right T.
Thank you for your help.

Thanks for the reply.
Well no, I haven't really asked about it to my T, I just assumed they had some knowledge because in their description it was shown that they had. The thing is that where I live (student city), I haven't been able to find anyone with cptsd background or knowledge. So, I don't really want to change a therapist if they are going to have the same knowledge like my current one has.
I also didn't really feel comfortable when I was looking for therapists, it was a big ordeal for me and I just put too much pressure on myself.

Hi, welcome. Hopefully this forum will help you. I also want to say that you are not alone, I have, for some time now, been getting triggered a lot throughout the day with flashbacks. It is hard at first, but for me, knowing that I am not  my emotional flashbacks helps.
I'd also recommend checking out some of Richard Grannon's material, like the free course on "How to Stop Emotional Flashbacks". I find his audio file that comes with it and the hand mnemonic really helpful for grounding and calming myself down.

Hi, I'm new here and I just wanted to ask, what to do when your therapist does not have any knowledge on complex ptsd? Will the therapy still work? I have tried 2 sessions of "talk therapy" but it only made it worse (I got really scared at the end of the last one), and so my first session has been with hypnosis. I wanted to know if I can still manage with my therapist even if she has no knowledge of C-ptsd.
Thanks in advance.

Do you live on your own or with your parents? Are they the source of your trauma? (It would help for us to know a bit more about you.)

I do live with my parents, and they are partially responsible for it, but most of it is because of my older brother. The thing is that this is a big public school, so I've just presumed that most teachers don't care about you personally. I haven't reached out to any of them, but especially because I feel like I shouldn't have this big of a problem with the french language as I've been in a french school for more than 7 years, therefore most people assume that I don't have a problem.
I want to also thank you for your reply, it makes me feel less alone.

Hi, I just wanted to share my experience of school as well, although it's a bit different from everyone else.
From kindergarten till 4th grade, I was in an English speaking school. However, after my 4th grade, my family and I moved to France, and I attended at first a french (private) bilingual school for one year, and later on till 12th grade, a french public school. Now looking back I would suppose that if I had stayed in an "all" English speaking school for my whole life, then I would probably have had good grades, and my story would be like most of yours. However, when I moved to France, I was 11 years old, and I understood that French was a language that I could not understand and not be confident in, as I didn't really know much of french prior to moving. Therefore, throughout my whole school education, I have never felt confident in French and I fear homework and classes, as most of my subjects are in French. This means that I have not learned much in subjects such as science, philosophy, economics, french literature, etc. and I am triggered many times if I try to learn or read about these subjects when at home. Thus, my grades in most subjects are average and below average.
I guess I just want to know if someone out there has had a similar experience like mine, and not feel so stupid about my situation (I've felt like that after explaining some of my problems to other people).
Also, I just wanted to say that right now I'm finishing 12th grade, and this year has been the hardest for me, symptom wise. I get triggered so many times by teachers and homework assignments, and I even skipped almost 3 weeks of school because I would just be overwhelmed so many times. Has anyone else experienced this, and if so, then what has helped?