I often wish that there was a button after every post that we could click, like a like button, to show solidarity and support for the poster.
About ten years ago I was a CEO of an organisation which had three directors who were academics. One of them once told me, before I was fired, that I "was one of those people who get folks backs up," another told me that he marked his students at the university of Warwick on attitude more than content. looking back now, I see that they lacked the emotional intelligence to see that students that they routinely failed were probably those who suffered mental health issues and CPTSD. That is the reality of the world we live in and living with CPTSD.
The last couple of days I have been attending interviews for a new job within a government department. It was a one and a half day affair full of being asked to present information, solve problems etc. The department gave me a big feeling of being inadequate and that despite 15 years of experience in my field I felt completely like an imposter and a fraud. I was hyper--alert the whole time and could not relax.
The assessments were being conducted by a psychologist, at the end of the day said about me that she saw things that were excellent and things that they didn't like, so I didn't get the job. I guessed that at some point I was triggered, and I attempted to make a point in order to be heard with in the group which she picked up upon. She saw this as being an inability to listen to others and that I was talking over other people in the group, I am not sure if she saw PTSD but I got a feeling that she could see that I was carrying some pain. That kinda confirms and reinforces, the feeling of not being good enough, increases ones self doubt and adds another coat of varnish to the layers of insult and injury.
I wonder if this was a self fulfilling prophecy, that I sabotaged the day as I need this job, but thought that ultimately I'll get fired so why go there. I also wonder what should I try to do, what job might I be able to do and manage to live without causing trouble or "getting people's backs up" so that I might be able to avoid future pain so that I might be able to lick my wounds and heal.
I remember reading Pete Walker and how he managed to get a job despite being triggered in an interview. I so envy him.
About ten years ago I was a CEO of an organisation which had three directors who were academics. One of them once told me, before I was fired, that I "was one of those people who get folks backs up," another told me that he marked his students at the university of Warwick on attitude more than content. looking back now, I see that they lacked the emotional intelligence to see that students that they routinely failed were probably those who suffered mental health issues and CPTSD. That is the reality of the world we live in and living with CPTSD.
The last couple of days I have been attending interviews for a new job within a government department. It was a one and a half day affair full of being asked to present information, solve problems etc. The department gave me a big feeling of being inadequate and that despite 15 years of experience in my field I felt completely like an imposter and a fraud. I was hyper--alert the whole time and could not relax.
The assessments were being conducted by a psychologist, at the end of the day said about me that she saw things that were excellent and things that they didn't like, so I didn't get the job. I guessed that at some point I was triggered, and I attempted to make a point in order to be heard with in the group which she picked up upon. She saw this as being an inability to listen to others and that I was talking over other people in the group, I am not sure if she saw PTSD but I got a feeling that she could see that I was carrying some pain. That kinda confirms and reinforces, the feeling of not being good enough, increases ones self doubt and adds another coat of varnish to the layers of insult and injury.
I wonder if this was a self fulfilling prophecy, that I sabotaged the day as I need this job, but thought that ultimately I'll get fired so why go there. I also wonder what should I try to do, what job might I be able to do and manage to live without causing trouble or "getting people's backs up" so that I might be able to avoid future pain so that I might be able to lick my wounds and heal.
I remember reading Pete Walker and how he managed to get a job despite being triggered in an interview. I so envy him.