Thanks everyone for the feedback and encouragement. After speaking with my T yesterday and spending most of the day praying and reflecting and discussing with my DW, I'm going to hold off on contacting m for now. My only desire to contact her is to give her another opportunity to be the mother she was supposed to be, but I know I will just be let down again. DW (who is a nurse) may reach out from that angle, but I'm staying out of it.
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Personality Disorder (Perpetrator) / unBPM is Dying
June 22, 2020, 03:53:13 AM
My unBPM has cancer and does not have super long to live. I've been NC since late last summer and it has been a great 10 months. I am also a few weeks into EMDR therapy for the abuse I suffered at her hands. I am unsure of how to proceed here. I have all the guilt and feelings of shame associated with "turning my back" on her. And my relationship with enSis is rapidly deteriorating as she can't seem to admit that unBPM was even a terrible mother, much less that I was abused. I guess my question is this: has anyone re-contacted their abuser while in the midst of EMDR or other therapy for C-PTSD? Was it helpful? Harmful? Did you regret it? Glad you did it? I have an appointment with my therapist on Wednesday where I will discuss this, but I would love y'all's input. Thanks!