Powerful drawings. Thank you for sharing those.
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#3257
Sexual Abuse / Wall of Unbelief Collapsing *TW
May 10, 2019, 01:56:26 AM
I decided to share something that happened a couple of weeks ago; the impact is still with me.
I have struggled with believing my memories. My T said that my not believing myself has been a way for me to protect myself. That wall has been slowly coming down over the last year. A couple of weeks ago a large chunk was torn down. I am feeling raw and vulnerable, but it is also good. That wall that was there to protect me is now a weight and a burden.
Trigger Warning *********
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I had a flash memory of my grandfather forcing me to take a drink of alcohol. I told that to my T. It was very brief. We didn't talk about it much. It was a 5 second scene from my childhood. Six days after telling my therapist that memory, I was with my siblings and we were looking at photos. One of them told me that my Aunt had told her that her father (my grandfather) forced alcohol down her until she passed out. I hadn't told them my memory. My siblings know VERY LITTLE about my abuse. Their experience was different; apparently I was the selected one. Also, my sister said she missed our mother. I said that I know that their experience was very different, but mom gave me to grandpa. One of them said, "He (grandpa) must have really had her (mom) under his thumb that she sacrificed her daughter." I really was shocked that they didn't deny that she gave me to that monster or that they didn't defend her. So those two things: my aunt's memory similar to mine and my siblings reaction to my telling them that our mother gave me to grandfather, have caused a huge portion of my wall of unbelief (of my memories) to come crashing down.
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End trigger warning
I feel very shaky inside. Also, a bit like someone has turned a light on in a very dark room. Those things (stated above and much more) did happen to me. I'm not crazy. I am not making things up. I was abused. I was abused. I was abused.
I have struggled with believing my memories. My T said that my not believing myself has been a way for me to protect myself. That wall has been slowly coming down over the last year. A couple of weeks ago a large chunk was torn down. I am feeling raw and vulnerable, but it is also good. That wall that was there to protect me is now a weight and a burden.
Trigger Warning *********
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I had a flash memory of my grandfather forcing me to take a drink of alcohol. I told that to my T. It was very brief. We didn't talk about it much. It was a 5 second scene from my childhood. Six days after telling my therapist that memory, I was with my siblings and we were looking at photos. One of them told me that my Aunt had told her that her father (my grandfather) forced alcohol down her until she passed out. I hadn't told them my memory. My siblings know VERY LITTLE about my abuse. Their experience was different; apparently I was the selected one. Also, my sister said she missed our mother. I said that I know that their experience was very different, but mom gave me to grandpa. One of them said, "He (grandpa) must have really had her (mom) under his thumb that she sacrificed her daughter." I really was shocked that they didn't deny that she gave me to that monster or that they didn't defend her. So those two things: my aunt's memory similar to mine and my siblings reaction to my telling them that our mother gave me to grandfather, have caused a huge portion of my wall of unbelief (of my memories) to come crashing down.
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End trigger warning
I feel very shaky inside. Also, a bit like someone has turned a light on in a very dark room. Those things (stated above and much more) did happen to me. I'm not crazy. I am not making things up. I was abused. I was abused. I was abused.
#3258
Recovery Journals / Re: Deep Blue’s progression not perfection journal
May 10, 2019, 01:02:59 AM
Supporting you in your progression.
#3259
Recovery Journals / Re: MoonBeam's Recovery Journal
May 10, 2019, 01:01:23 AM
Feeling for you being "lost in the swirling mess of trauma." I know the feeling and would like to send you a hug. You are not alone.
#3260
Recovery Journals / Re: Blueberry's Next Steps: beneficial, constructive and mindful
May 10, 2019, 12:55:43 AM
I can see where those interactions were triggering. Sending you care and tenderness. Proud of you for standing up for yourself.
#3261
Recovery Journals / Re: Elpha's adventure pt. 3
May 09, 2019, 06:13:06 PM
Been thinking of you knowing you have big adventures in front of you.
#3263
Recovery Journals / Re: Hoping for the best
May 09, 2019, 02:25:43 AM
Thinking of you. When you are up to it, please give us an update.
#3265
Recovery Journals / Re: Hope's Journal: Befriending My Parts
May 07, 2019, 08:20:55 PM
Hope,
You have so much going on with the adult you trying to cope and concerned about things coming up, your body feeling things intensely, ICs wanting to talk about their experiences. I also understand about the focus on the wallpaper pattern. Just want you to know that you are heard. I know it is really hard.
You have so much going on with the adult you trying to cope and concerned about things coming up, your body feeling things intensely, ICs wanting to talk about their experiences. I also understand about the focus on the wallpaper pattern. Just want you to know that you are heard. I know it is really hard.
#3266
Please Introduce Yourself Here / Re: Introduction - Trigger Warning
May 07, 2019, 08:06:19 PMQuote from: neenerd on May 07, 2019, 02:50:46 PMWelcome to a place where you don't have to put on a mask.
Nobody, except my kids and my therapist, has any idea what's actually going on inside of me. They ask me how I am and I just say "I'm fine".
Happy to be part of a group of people that can hopefully relate....
#3267
General Discussion / Re: do you experience the same?
May 07, 2019, 02:13:59 PM
Glad you are not being silent right now and that you are talking to us.
Another thought: What are some small ways that you can give yourself rest? A walk, a cup of tea, read a book, etc. Sometimes those little oasises help a bit.
Quote from: suffersilence on May 07, 2019, 03:11:01 AMWith c-PTSD even the simplest task can seem overwhelming. Some days it feels like a fight to take the next breath, let alone making steps in a career. This is part of an email I sent to my T yesterday. "Told myself I need to fight, but couldn't remember what I'm fighting for. Just putting energy into a tiny victory in an un-winnable war?" Telling you this so you know you are not alone in those feelings. With that being said, I join with your friend in encouraging you to not give up. One step at a time. And your diploma---Huge accomplishment!!
And Do you find yourself feeling like give up because you spent so long in your whole life fighting (fighting to keep peace, fighting your own self, fighting co workers or boss for respect, fighting to get what you want.) I talked with my friend and he said that I should not give up. but right now I feel fought out and just want to have peace and quiet. no more fighting, but I know I have to fight in order to get what I want (career wise, as I just graduated college with a diploma in automotive mechanics).
Plumb tuckered out.
Another thought: What are some small ways that you can give yourself rest? A walk, a cup of tea, read a book, etc. Sometimes those little oasises help a bit.
#3268
Recovery Journals / Re: Hope's Journal: Befriending My Parts
May 07, 2019, 02:07:02 AM
I'm too out of it to write any sensible words, but do want to send you a hug.
#3269
NSC - Negative Self-Concept / Re: Can't celebrate my achievements
May 06, 2019, 02:03:10 PM
My husband ran his first marathon last year and he also was disappointed in his race. I think that is a fairly common reaction. I understand, though, that your feelings of disappointment and not being able to celebrate run very deep. Although painful, I think it is good that you are able to see where that comes from and another step toward healing. I say to you: finishing a marathon is a HUGE accomplishment. Way to go, Oscen! Yay!
#3270
Recovery Journals / Re: Allie's Archives: a recovery journal
May 06, 2019, 01:51:09 PM
Hearing your feelings of frustration and being overwhelmed.