I, too, have bouts of sadness that come over me out of no where. I haven't had a name for this experience but now I do: " sadness flashbacks ". That is a perfect description. I'm having one right now that just started today. I came to the forum looking for what people had to say about EF's. I found this discussion which perfectly describes what I'm going through.
It is a beautiful, sunny, not too hot day where I live. That's when they always seem to happen - on the most gorgeous days of the year. I had lots of bad things done to me no matter what kind of day it was. But, when it happened on a beautiful day the shock and unfairness of it all seemed to make it worse. As a child I felt safest and the most carefree when I could be out in the sun and fresh air, playing by myself in my own little world ( probably completely dissociated ). I can remember being verbally or physically assaulted on days like that for no apparent reason, totally catching me by surprise. Even worse than whatever abuse I had to endure was the sudden shock of being jerked out of my imaginary world back into the "real" world of pain and sadness.
I appreciate the helpful advice of breathing and staying present in my body. But maybe most of all I just need to grieve and cry over what that little boy lost and went through. He never felt he was allowed to cry. And at 61 years old I still have trouble getting the tears to come. I guess they'll come when they're ready. I'm in a safe place now in my adult body so I'll give it a try. Thank you everyone.
Luke
It is a beautiful, sunny, not too hot day where I live. That's when they always seem to happen - on the most gorgeous days of the year. I had lots of bad things done to me no matter what kind of day it was. But, when it happened on a beautiful day the shock and unfairness of it all seemed to make it worse. As a child I felt safest and the most carefree when I could be out in the sun and fresh air, playing by myself in my own little world ( probably completely dissociated ). I can remember being verbally or physically assaulted on days like that for no apparent reason, totally catching me by surprise. Even worse than whatever abuse I had to endure was the sudden shock of being jerked out of my imaginary world back into the "real" world of pain and sadness.
I appreciate the helpful advice of breathing and staying present in my body. But maybe most of all I just need to grieve and cry over what that little boy lost and went through. He never felt he was allowed to cry. And at 61 years old I still have trouble getting the tears to come. I guess they'll come when they're ready. I'm in a safe place now in my adult body so I'll give it a try. Thank you everyone.
Luke