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Thank you in advance to anyone who can help me, or even just make me feel less alone.
Originally I wanted to know if anyone had experienced blank spots, but reading this section tells me that a lot of you do.

Through (therapist-guided) EMDR I have run into an unusual (for me) completely physical/emotional memory. They taught me in college that trauma is always vividly recalled, so I am concerned that if the memory is mostly physical then it is false. The idea that I might have invented it makes me feel ashamed.  On the other hand the pain from this event is very present and very real right this moment. I can't shake it. It hurts so bad.

Does a blank spot reflect on how true the memory is?
Does the accuracy of the memory even matter if it was similar to other events that certainly did occur?
And how do I make this pain go away now that I've remembered it until i can deal properly at my next EMDR session?

What I think happened:
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I believe I was subjected to an involuntary  pelvic examination age 4 during which I was restrained and injured during my struggles.

I tried finding medical records, but it happened too long ago. I did see some online images of my old pediatrician's building that triggered some physical sensations and memories of a nightmare I had as an older child where I was pregnant and trapped and I knew if I could just get out of the office I wouldn't have to have the baby.
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I really feel your pain here Bluejerrie.
I also am extremely phobic about vomiting and have young children.

I don't know how safe you feel with medicine, but what helps me has been my rescue meds, both anti-anxiety and anti-emetic if necessary. When one my kids does throw up, as soon as they are safe, I immediately take a rescue and sometimes Dramamine if I start to feel nauseous just by being around them. This usually keeps me from having a full panic attack. My doctor also allows me to keep one or two emergency anti-emetics around in case I do start "emitting" (due to a head injury if I start I can't stop on my own). This gives me confidence that I can get through whatever that night brings without going to the ER.

No idea if that would help you or not, but I definitely feel you.

The good news is that as your child gets older, their ability to handle this will improve, and you will risk less exposure, it will be far less messy, they will be far less panicked, etc. My seven vomited recently and stayed perfectly still until we could get him cleaned up, then snuggled up on the couch and talked about how he would have to miss school and watch TV all day. It does get better.