I spent time in counseling as a teenager but I don't think that we dealt with any of the hard stuff. Even my sisters both had counseling as teenagers and we are all finding or have found that it wasn't enough. This is one of things one of my abusers tries to use against me periodically too.
i always thought my ability to forget in order to cope was kind of cool. Until I sat in someone's office and tried to explain how I was abused by others too and my mind just wouldn't pull that information out even though I know that each time I realized this was abusive and left. I tend to choose controlling and angry men who usually have a substance abuse problem. While I can't remember my father well I have wondered if those behaviors fit him. I do know that as an adult my father asked me to write a letter saying that stuff didn't happen. I ignored it. Yes I was so in denial about the effects of my abuse I sought a relationship with my abuser but that is another story for another day.
i always thought my ability to forget in order to cope was kind of cool. Until I sat in someone's office and tried to explain how I was abused by others too and my mind just wouldn't pull that information out even though I know that each time I realized this was abusive and left. I tend to choose controlling and angry men who usually have a substance abuse problem. While I can't remember my father well I have wondered if those behaviors fit him. I do know that as an adult my father asked me to write a letter saying that stuff didn't happen. I ignored it. Yes I was so in denial about the effects of my abuse I sought a relationship with my abuser but that is another story for another day.