Quote from: Milarepa on February 11, 2015, 08:29:10 PM
There is no opportunity to intentionally select something that you would authentically like to be better at for your own personal growth and then take baby steps to cultivate it. There is only the desperate fight for survival and the willingness to pretend to be anything just to make it another day.
Wow.
Not to veer too far from the original, meaningful point of the thread, but this example summarizes so well why cliches can feel duplicitous and manipulative. They were code for pleasing both our unreasonable families, and to a very large (often terrifying) extent, making the "right impression" to others...i.e. the impression they insisted we make. Surviving them and surviving in a world we assumed was just like them had nothing to do with authenticity and everything to do with appearances. I know there was never any plan, never any learning curve, just the threat of humiliation if we didn't conform to Hallmark expectations.