Quote from: Kizzie on February 04, 2016, 06:58:26 PM
Perhaps it's enough right now to feel safe here and when you (all parts of you) are ready, it will begin to carry over into real life? That's what I find is happening, I think because here I say things here that I could not imagine ever talking about two or three years ago. Doing so (talking here) has brought the shame and fear way down and while I still freeze, it's for shorter periods and less intense.
Hope you are able to take heart from this
Thank you Kissie, you are right that maybe being here now is enough. When you say about all parts of me feeling safe you couldn't be more accurate- I have parts of me that are stuck in the past. Have you experience of this? I hope I haven't freaked anyone out by saying that! All I mean is that part of me remained in that house (where the worst of my childhood was lived) and I'm hoping that one day soon those parts can emerge. They won't come out until they feel safety has been proved. Just writing about that is helping me reduce the shame that's attached, which is just what I want. Thank you again. Can I ask how you define the periods when you freeze? Do you mean freezing in a place, or while you're doing a certain triggering activity?