Quote from: pam on September 12, 2014, 09:57:59 PM
I don't like to be under the control of someone else and "obey". That is exactly it, but it feels humiliating and dangerous to me. People I have talked to don't have this at all! They trust and just hand themselves over, which is pretty foreign to me!
It's like they think they're surrounded by an invisible force field that willl keep things at bay. "Oh, such things only ever happen to other people, I'm quite safe."
Quote from: pam on September 12, 2014, 09:57:59 PM.....except my inner critic says "That's because you have to be treated like a baby!" Because to tell the truth, the technician doing the mammogram DID talk to me in a gentle voice like I was 5 yrs old! And that's what I need, so I feel guilty and like a fool because the inner critic is calling me a baby. Can't win.
I once knew a huge, strong guy, a trained policeman who now worked as a truck driver, who fainted at the dentist's.
Quote from: pam on September 12, 2014, 09:57:59 PMBut if you do have to leave a situation, doesn't your inner critic punish you for it? Or don't you then feel like a failure for having to leave?
I feel like a failure anyway. But let me think about this. The thing is, about twelve years ago, two separate doctors on two separate occasions triggered my PTSD. (No assault happened, they were just insensitive jerks and triggered me.) Those weren't CPTSD flashbacks, they were PTSD ones - hypervigilance and tunnel vision and the feeling that I was physically, actually under threat. That feeling lasted for three days each time. After that, it grew into a numb sense of heightened (but not actual) danger. It took me a LONG time to feel safe and at ease again. So that's probably why the sheer thought of making a run for it comforts me. I know, it's not practicable in most cases. But the thought that I could theoretically do it helped. I'm at the doctor's volitionally. No one can force me to stay there. I can leave. If someone made me stay, I could call the police. PTSD makes me feel actually, physically threatened, to the point where I enter a room and instantly choose a seat where I can get up and leave, I scan the room for exit routes, I jump out of my skin if someone sneaks up on me, all that kind of thing. And in that particular context, it made sense to remind myself that I have always the option to flee.
So far, I've only ever exposed myself to low-risk and low-fear situations. I've been to the hairdresser's, but not yet to a GP. I dodged out of routine appointments for the past... how many years? But I went to a GP a few weeks ago, for something that was low-risk and didn't feel threatening. (A toe that wasn't as bendy as it should've been, and I wanted to make sure nothing was broken.) And the GP I went to was nice! Wow. So maybe that'll help ease me back into things.
But back to the point I was trying to make - I think I prepared for those situations ahead of time and tried to find out at what point I might leave, and how I might go about it. If a GP is about to do something that might trigger me, I might tell him that I'm prone to anxiety attacks and I'll have to do this some other time when I've had time to prepare? I never had to put this to the test, so I've no idea if this is doable. Or, I might say: "I'd like to think about this for a few days first"?