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There is quite a bit of initial discussion about changing any/all of the words in CPTSD here - http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=6758.0 that you may want to have a read through it before voting.

There is quite a bit of initial discussion about changing any/all of the words in CPTSD here - http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=6758.0 that you may want to have a read through it before voting.

There is quite a bit of initial discussion about changing any/all of the words in CPTSD here - http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=6758.0 that you may want to have a read through it before voting.

There is quite a bit of initial discussion about changing any/all of the words in CPTSD here - http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=6758.0 that you may want to have a read through it before voting.

This topic has been moved to Workplace Bullying/Harassment.

http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=8000.0

[Sexual Assault/Abuse/Harassment]

Obviously some or most of these articles may be triggering so please be aware of that before reading. 

Note:  Information about physical abuse in adulthood may be found in the thread about Domestic Abuse and Coercive Control here - https://cptsd.org/forum/index.php?topic=14480.msg128748#msg128748.  Please also note that emotional abuse is a major tactic in coercive control. 

Sexual Assault/Abuse/Harassment

A Survivor's Guide to Sexual Assault (US) - information and a list of state resources for survivors of sexual abuse to get the help they need. Includes a guide to help loved ones understand sexual assault.

The Survivors Justice Centre (US) - Free legal services and support for victims of sexual assault in the US to seek justice by holding their perpetrators accountable.

Sexual Assault & the Brain - Web site of Dr. Jim Hopper, an independent consultant and Teaching Associate in Psychology in the Department of Psychiatry of Harvard Medical School. For over 25 years, his research, clinical, and consulting work has focused on the psychological and biological effects of sexual assault, child abuse, and other traumatic experiences.

Why doesn't society care about male rape?  The Telegraph, May 25, 2015.

Fitzgerald, L. (2017). Still the last great open secret: Sexual harassment as systemic trauma,  Journal of Trauma & Dissociation, 18 (4).

Rhodes, E. (2018). There is a problem with juries acting on myths rather than evidence, The Psychologist, 31.

[Trigger Warning - Sexual Abuse]

Three Roses, Dee and I would like to thank you for using warnings when posts might be triggering    Many of you already do this (and tk you for doing so ), but we'd like to ask everyone to also add a few words to describe what it is you think may be triggering. For example:

Trigger Warning - Sexual Abuse  (or domestic violence, physical abuse, past suicide attempt, etc).

This provides members with more to go on in deciding to read or not read a post rather than having to read partway to see what it is that's triggering. 

Finally, in accordance with our guidelines, we also want to remind members to please only include enough information to get across what you need to and avoid overly graphic posts.  Detailed accounts of abuse/trauma can be quite triggering and  (re)traumatizing, and that's something we want to avoid while still being able to express what we need to in order to heal and recover. 

Tks everyone,

Kizzie
Site Manager/Moderator

... we moved far away from my uNPD FOO and are LC as there is a dramafest playing out currently.

[annoyed]

Our thread was getting overly long so am starting a new one.

Today I feel annoyed that my uNPDM whom I am LC with spewed a bunch of venom about my uNPDB in an email because they had a fight. It's just ludicrous that she is 89 and he is 63 and they are still fighting about the same kinds of things they did decades ago - gah!  That's NPD for you though. I am so glad we are LC and I am no longer swept into that black hole of perpetual drama any more. 

I have asked her repeatedly not to fill me in on this kind of thing but she "forgets" (tests to see if she can hook me into listening to her woes ).  So I will have to reinforce that boundary ....again.   We need an eye roll emoticon. 

Hi Everyone 

Just wanted to let you know that Dee has volunteered to help with moderating the forum.  Welcome Dee and thank you so much for joining the team!

Kizzie

If anyone is a member there as well, I could use a hand getting in touch with a member of their admin team, Spring Butterfly. I can't remember my password there and their password reset email isn't functioning so I need a manual reset. 

Anyway, could you login over there, PM her and ask that she PM me here at OOTS please? 

Much appreciated!

Kizzie

[Off-Board Information/Relationships]

Hi Everyone      As is our practice, every once in a while we reiterate a guideline here.  This one has to do with relationships and staying safe. 

Off-Board Information/Relationships

Protecting the confidentiality and privacy of members at OOTS is paramount to our members' sense of safety and community.  One risk to this lies in using the Private Message (PM) feature or emailing in off-board relationships, and revealing personal information to someone who is not trustworthy. While building friendships here at OOTS is encouraged, the fact of the matter is this is the Internet and people are not always who they say they are.

You are not obliged to answer any PM you receive or to provide any personal information to any individual, no matter how friendly or trustworthy they may appear. If you receive a first time PM which seems inappropriate, report it and the Moderators will discuss it with the sender. Members are strongly encouraged to go slowly and cautiously in any off-board PM relationship. If you start having red flags or the relationship has devolved into something negative, please be aware that Moderators cannot become involved in what inevitably turns into a "he said, she said" situation.  What we recommend if you do experience this, is to: a) end the relationship immediately; and, b) block the person's emails/PMs.

In terms of privacy and confidentiality, please be clear that members having personal information about another member they have learned off-board shall not disclose it to anyone other than in discussions with the Site Manager/ Moderators regarding problematic behaviour.  This is considered a serious breach of privacy and extends to the contents of any personal communications including email, personal messages, texts and telephone/face-to-face conversations.  Any information of this nature which is posted in the forum will be modified or removed by the moderator and the member warned. If it comes to light that this information was revealed to members other than the Site Manager/Moderators, the member will be warned and if there is a pattern of disclosing other members' private information, the member will be banned.     

Please respect the privacy of others as you wish your own privacy to be respected so that we keep OOTS a safe haven in which everyone can focus on their recovery. 

[Homesteading in the Calm Eye of the Storm: A Therapist Navigates His Complex PTSD]

A message for us from Pete about his new book:

Dear Fellow Recoverees,

My new book has just been released on Amazon.

It is titled Homesteading in the Calm Eye of the Storm: A Therapist Navigates His Complex PTSD. It is a Companion Book to my self-help book: COMPLEX PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. Homesteading is also a Memoir of my journey of recovering from C-PTSD. As such, it is not a typical self-help book, but rather the account of how I increasingly found relief from the painful symptoms of CPTSD.
   
Homesteading has much less psychological jargon and is written in a lighter, easier to read style than my other books. One previewer has described my book as"...rich, poignant, funny and full of self-disclosive anecdotes that are sure to help other survivors in their recovery."

Homesteading has two parts. In Part I, I escape from my dysfunctional family and backpack around the world seeking happiness while I unconsciously flee my suffering. In Part II, I wander into the jungles of psychological theory and technique. I shift my focus from global adventurer to inner world explorer.  SKIP TO PART ll if you are mainly interested in my direct recovery work. Part l sets the table for this work. 

Here is a Link to Amazon.com where you can purchase the printed version of my book:  www.amazon.com/dp/1974029158  The e-book and Kindle version of the book will not be available at this link for another 3 to 4 weeks. It also may not be available overseas for 2 to 4 more weeks.

I hope this book will shore you up for the long, but silver lining-laden journey of recovering.

Many Blessings,

Pete

Congratulations from all of us here at OOTS Pete, I know we will surely enjoy reading this new book! 

Regrettably, I recently took the decision to ban Candid from the forum.  She had been banned previously under a different forum name, and it just came to my attention that she had returned under a different account.  Members who have been banned in the past are not allowed to return to the forum, thus she was banned again under this second persona. 

If you have any questions, please direct them to me.

Kizzie

[For readers]

For readers - This is a general trigger warning for this sub-forum  because there is somewhat more graphic discussion of sexual abuse here then in other areas of the board. 

For posters - Please be aware that although some freedom to post about SA is given here, posts that are considered overly graphic descriptions (beyond what is needed to get across what you went through), will be edited/removed by the Site Manager or Moderators.   

This topic has been moved to General Discussion.

http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=5415.0

[Please note that the researcher has the participants she needs now so recruitment is closed. Many thanks to all of you who responded!!]

Please note that the researcher has the participants she needs now so recruitment is closed.  Many thanks to all of you who responded!!  

Kizzie

Lisa Henshaw is a doctoral student at the Adelphi University School of Social Work in Garden City, New York.  She is undertaking a supervised research study about individuals who experienced trauma in the past, but after seeking help from a health professional were misdiagnosed.  Unfortunately, as many of you know or have experienced, this has been the case for a lot of us with Complex PTSD. Please consider participating in Lisa's study as this is an opportunity to let the mental health field know how this type of experience impacted your lives.  Please note her study has been approved by the Ethics Review Board of the university.   

The Recruitment Flyer and Informed Consent Form are attached.  Please go ahead and contact Lisa directly if you have any questions/comments.

Hi Everyone 

As you can see by our memberships, we are now over 4,000 and growing by leaps and bounds daily.  One thing the Mod Squad and I can use some help with is welcoming new members as it's proving difficult to keep up.  We'd rather not have anyone join and not be welcomed so if you would, please take the time to post, even a short hello to new members.  It often take a tremendous amount of courage to make that first post and it's important not to leave them dangling in cyberspace.

Many tks! 

[OOTSManager@gmail.com]

Hi All 

As many of you know OOTS (and our sister site OOTF) were down yesterday.  It was a problem with our ISP which obviously has been resolved now.   It doesn't happen often, just occasionally. However, if/when it does, please know you can alert me by emailing our general address OOTSManager@gmail.com. That way I can get to work on resolving the problem ASAP. 

Thanks and sorry for any inconvenience!

Kizzie

Hi All 

I am seeing acronyms I don't recognize in some posts.  If you have a moment, please have a look look through our current list and let me know about any that should be added - http://www.outofthestorm.website/acronyms/.

Tks!