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I'm locking this as this person has left the forum.

If you're annoyed/angry (and I would be), maybe do yourself a favour, be straight, tell him you overheard what he said and ask him why he thinks you're not interested when you've told him on more than one occasion his class conflicts with another one you want to take.

I mean why would he say that? JMO but I do think what his said is a reflection of his own securities. That is, no matter that you've told him about the conflict he sees it as you not wanting to take his class and giving an excuse. It sounds like he feels somewhat rejected.   

People eh?

An angry sibling in a dysfunctional, abusive family and parents who don't hold children accountable for behaviour like this is common sadly.

This seems to be something that happened a few summers back. Is she still behaving the same way towards you?

    That's great to hear!

That's interesting StoryWorld. It makes sense that as survivors we would think a kindly father would turn at some point because with ours that's what we experienced and it's what we expect of the world.  I think it's an important point that life and people are not always like we experienced them, to know there are better and healthier ways to live.

BlueMoon, if you are actively having thoughts of committing suicide you really need to get some professional help.  We of course support and care about you but we can't really help you over the Internet except to say please get some help. Our trauma makes us feel so dark at times and like we will never come out of it into the light of day, but many of us do, with help and treatment.

We have listed a number of resources here -  https://www.outofthestorm.website/emergency.  You can also go to the closest ER of a hospital.

You're not entirely alone with this feeling, many of us have been in the same place and we hope you can feel that we are here in the background hoping you will get the help you need.   

Well welcome to Out of the Storm FlowerGirl, that is quite a story and I am so very sorry for all that you went through. It always amazes me that any of us come  out the other end able to engage in recovery work. So much drags us down and yet like you, many of us surface from being beaten down to fight for ourselves. Bravo to you that you are thankful for who you are, you should be. Shedding shame and the toxic versions of yourself your family and others have tried to foist on you is no small feat. It take courage and stubborn perseverance, and support like you'll find here.

    

That was quite the dream Hope! I have a lot of similar dreams in which I'm trying to go somewhere and have to gather my things quickly but I can't seem to get the job done no matter how hard I try.  I don't do so on speeding trains though 

Amazing what our minds can get up to in our sleep. I'm thankful they are only anxious type dreams and not the nightmares that plague many of our fellow survivors. 

[neurodevelopmental disorder]

I read up on this and found this one sentence kind of says it best: "Autism is a neurodevelopmental disorder that presents in early childhood, whereas CPTSD is a mental health condition that emerges after exposure to complex trauma".

This is not to say you don't have autism though, the two can co-occur according to what I read.  Just Google something to the effect "Are autism and CPTSD the same thing?" and lots of info will pop up.

It may be that your current therapist is not the one for you. It does happen and you are well within your rights to look for another one that sits you better and that you feel you are making progress with.

It could also be that you are irritated with yourself and them because there is something big bubbling up.  If you have a think or I guess a feel of what's going on and that might be it then maybe you should stay and see if you can get to the bottom of things?


IMO it's about you helping you find the help you need, whatever that may be.   

[really was that bad"]

Everything you have written tells me what happened to you was not in any way "small".  Abuse is abuse no matter how seemingly innocuous or small it seems. If the actions of another tells you you are not worth much, that you can be treated as nothing, that you are shameful, and so on, it was abusive. I suspect if you go back over what you wrote about and try to see the underlying messages, you'll see what I'm saying.

Something we often say here because newcomers often feel like it wasn't that bad is "If you have the symptoms of Complex PTSD, it really was that bad". You did not get what you needed and deserved as a child, the same as the rest of us here.   

 

So sorry to hear it's taking some time for the psychiatrist to respond, I know how difficult that is.   

BlueMoon, IMO you are well within your rights to let your T know that you think there may a particular issue, in this case possible SA, you need/want to talk about but let them know how you would like to approach it. It sounds like going slowly, testing the waters to see if you feel anxiety which as BB has suggested may signal there is something there you need to deal with may be the best approach. I'm always about going slow with things that cause anxiety or an EF to rise up because it's me telling me it's too much all at once.

And just my opinion here too, but the fact that you wrote a post about possible SA tells me that there is likely something there that needs dealing with so maybe don't delete it or at least if you do come back and revisit it at some point.  The things we push down have a way of popping back up.

Good luck, I hope you are able to find some good professional help. 

Meds are so individual Asdis, a bit of crap shoot to be honest. I was on Prozac for a couple of decades and it just helped me to keep my head above water but didn't fend off depression and anxiety all that well. It stopped working a couple of years ago and my GP was unable to help. It took quite a while but I finally got to see a psychiatrist and he helped me find meds that work for me. I don't know about where you live, but psych's here are like gold so very hard to get in to see one.