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sounds like you're doing a good job of transitioning, blueberry.  please continue to be gentle w/ yourself.  love and hugs

 

biscuits - yum!!!  hope it hits the spot.  sounds good to me.  love and hugs, CF 

blueberry, that sounded like a lot to me.  anything involving brainwork exhausts me. and for the record, i hate this, too!

i know you'll get to whatever you have to do, but i'm glad you're listening to your body/brain that it's time for a nap. keep up the good work.  love and hugs

it is indeed frustrating, EA, and i can relate. too many times things come out of my mouth before i can catch them, or the opposite - i can't say what i mean because my thoughts don't coagulate into words. and, i am on the edge of the spectrum, so i can see how that has affected me and my ability to communicate at times.  i'm better at writing, where i can take my time to think about what i want to say and how i want to say it. 

i watched that little video about empaths, and it made sense that they are attuned to what they perceive as the most dangerous thing in the room. i think her advice was a bit simplistic.  it's easy for anyone to tell us 'you need to do this or change that' but putting it into practice can be a whole 'nother can of worms. i guess it's why i don't usually look to online 'gurus'. it makes me feel uncomfortable rather than encouraged.

it's amazing all the info you've gathered.  gives me something to think about, and put into concrete realizations. love and hugs

rainy, those are some powerful realizations. i hope being w/ everyone went well, or as well as possible, and you got out of there relatively unscathed. thinking of you as you continue to battle your way out of all this. i hope they're gone soon. love and hugs

hey, moondance, i get the idea of wanting to respond to others' journals but just don't have the wherewithal to do so.  as i've been told many times (probably even by you), not to worry.  do what you need to do for you.  we know you're with us.

hopefully you can get some rest, a little relaxation, naps, whatever helps shoo the tireds away.  i'll read to you if that helps, bring you a little something to sip on, watch a fun flick, and we can just chill. or not, if you'd rather be left alone.  your call.  love and hugs

i've been struggling w/ the heat, and today's the first day we're getting a break in what seems like a very long time.  it has stressed me out, and my D as well, and i've gotten very sensitive to any little trigger, word, look - like i told my T, what should be a pinprick feels like a power drill.  i'm hoping we'll be able to breathe a little for a few days at least before another hot day rears its ugly head.

so, i've been laying low, very lethargic, super low energy.  i did go out for some shopping yesterday, and just that little trip in the heat did me in for the rest of the day.  i'm suspecting much of this is due to my age as well - i just can't take heat like i used to. another realization that i'm truly in the latter part of my life and with that comes all kinds of its own challenges, including the challenge of acceptance.

i hear you, EA.  love and hugs

i hope you can, too, rainy.

i think it says a lot about your H's past that he dissociates. there's something terrible going on that maybe he can't talk about, too terrible that he has to dissociate away from it.  sounds like there's more here than meets the eye.  not excusing, just trying to understand.

people stay in abusive relationships for all kinds of reasons.  it can be hard to understand looking at it from the outside when you can see it so clearly.

i wish you didn't have to work.  love and hugs 

 

totally agree w/ this, EA -

you know different realities different belief systems and different frequencies

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i think it's one of the more difficult realities to understand when in a relationship - what one person says comes from their own reality and vice versa.  i think this is why communication is so difficult between people in relationships because the idea of this is not widely known or respected. thanks for this. 

and no pressure on you to respond.  do your thing. love and hugs

moondance, that was a cable guy w/ all those questions, assumptions, and judgme4nts?  i think he was way out of line - just my opinion.  i think you dealt with it really well, tho, so congrats to you! well done!

i think the idea of putting your hand on the hurting part to let them know they're safe and cared for is a lovely idea.  i hope you can keep it up.  love and hugs

 

moondance, thanks for those wonderful big hugs, and for your caring words.  i agree, this kind of thing has happened to us far too often, and i still get triggered by it. ugh!  wonder if that will ever end.