Thank you so much Not Alone, Blueberry & CactusFlower for your words of support.
I got home today to find what looks like a Christmas card from M. But I won't open it. But there were no calls at least. I told my father that I have been no contact with M for 2 years and don't want any, he understands the reasons & fully supports my decision and is planning to visit me shortly.
I haven't told him about her sending the police round yet and don't want to get him involved if I can help it, I don't think that's fair as they have been divorced for over 40 years now.
I am torn between anger, fear, but also pity & also feeling guilty for not wanting her in my life. I know that her own actions have been the cause ..but still I can't help feeling like this.
I know that she will never say she is sorry ( or at least not with the true feeling and depth of understanding of the effects of her actions & inactions on my life.
Thank you for the suggestions on injunctions etc I will look at that in case I need it in the future.
I got home today to find what looks like a Christmas card from M. But I won't open it. But there were no calls at least. I told my father that I have been no contact with M for 2 years and don't want any, he understands the reasons & fully supports my decision and is planning to visit me shortly.
I haven't told him about her sending the police round yet and don't want to get him involved if I can help it, I don't think that's fair as they have been divorced for over 40 years now.
I am torn between anger, fear, but also pity & also feeling guilty for not wanting her in my life. I know that her own actions have been the cause ..but still I can't help feeling like this.
I know that she will never say she is sorry ( or at least not with the true feeling and depth of understanding of the effects of her actions & inactions on my life.
Thank you for the suggestions on injunctions etc I will look at that in case I need it in the future.