Yes yes and yes to everything.
I HATE GETTING HAIRCUTS!!!!
You've got all my (virtual) strength for your errands tomorrow.
I HATE GETTING HAIRCUTS!!!!
You've got all my (virtual) strength for your errands tomorrow.
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General Discussion / Re: Getting the Groceries
July 20, 2017, 04:05:02 PM
Clarity,
Same. On an anxiety scale from
0-10, errrands rate a 7 or 8 for me.
I'm a proponent of prolonged exposure. Can't beat it if I don't join it. I TRY to remember my CBT steps, and to breath, but easier said than done, eh?
Trips to the grocery store with my uNM were mini, biweekly nightmares (she liked to cram in the shopping for a family of six after we'd run out of food).
Keep on keeping on. I hope you're so proud every time you accomplish it!!! Much love.
Same. On an anxiety scale from
0-10, errrands rate a 7 or 8 for me.
I'm a proponent of prolonged exposure. Can't beat it if I don't join it. I TRY to remember my CBT steps, and to breath, but easier said than done, eh?
Trips to the grocery store with my uNM were mini, biweekly nightmares (she liked to cram in the shopping for a family of six after we'd run out of food).
Keep on keeping on. I hope you're so proud every time you accomplish it!!! Much love.
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General Discussion / Re: Anxiety dreams
July 19, 2017, 02:46:58 PMQuote from: Three Roses on July 19, 2017, 11:45:31 AM
Welcome, Magician! Thanks for joining & posting.
THANKS!
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General Discussion / Re: ANY SELF AWARE NARCS VISITING THIS SITE IN THERAPY GETTING BETTER, RECOVERING???
July 19, 2017, 02:45:04 PM
Hazy,
Your words really touched me. My brother, who was/is a sensitive and sweet person, is (probably) an undiagnosed narc due to the abuse we shared as children/adolescents. Your self-awareness and obvious empathy gives me a lot of hope for him. Thank you.
Your words really touched me. My brother, who was/is a sensitive and sweet person, is (probably) an undiagnosed narc due to the abuse we shared as children/adolescents. Your self-awareness and obvious empathy gives me a lot of hope for him. Thank you.
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General Discussion / Re: What is Healthy?
July 19, 2017, 02:34:35 PM
I could've written this post myself, it resonated so fully!!!
SAME! I had no idea what a healthy life looked like, but now I feel like it's unfolding very slowly before me.
I've become really interested in minimalism and I recently (January 2017) read Marie Kondo's Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. I gave away all the bs my FOO shoved on me when I moved, all the thoughtless, last minute gifts, all the birthday cards they thought served as good enough in place of a phone call or visit...
My FOO was very messy and hated cleaning. I find myself taking new pleasure in normal chores that I used to dread. A clean apartment feels like such a luxury.
I also started bullet journaling, as well as keeping a Throw-Away diary. I write two or three pages every morning (or whenever I remember, lol) of stream of consciousness blather in my Throw-Away diary to just get all the ruminations and worries out. Sort of like exorcising my demons. I never re-read these pages. They're not meant to be re-read. And they could say anything, like, "I'm so bored, so tired, have to do laundry," over and over. Doesn't matter. It's just to get my negative self-talk out of my head. Then, when the notebook is filled, I recycle it.
Sounds wacky but it got me through some dark times.
Much love,
M
SAME! I had no idea what a healthy life looked like, but now I feel like it's unfolding very slowly before me.
I've become really interested in minimalism and I recently (January 2017) read Marie Kondo's Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. I gave away all the bs my FOO shoved on me when I moved, all the thoughtless, last minute gifts, all the birthday cards they thought served as good enough in place of a phone call or visit...
My FOO was very messy and hated cleaning. I find myself taking new pleasure in normal chores that I used to dread. A clean apartment feels like such a luxury.
I also started bullet journaling, as well as keeping a Throw-Away diary. I write two or three pages every morning (or whenever I remember, lol) of stream of consciousness blather in my Throw-Away diary to just get all the ruminations and worries out. Sort of like exorcising my demons. I never re-read these pages. They're not meant to be re-read. And they could say anything, like, "I'm so bored, so tired, have to do laundry," over and over. Doesn't matter. It's just to get my negative self-talk out of my head. Then, when the notebook is filled, I recycle it.
Sounds wacky but it got me through some dark times.
Much love,
M
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General Discussion / Re: Anxiety dreams
July 18, 2017, 09:56:24 PM
Hey,
I used to have anxiety dreams/nightmares constantly. I still get them once or twice a month. Like waking up and immediately thinking, "Thank GOD that was not real!"
I love good rituals. Even when I've had a nightmare, I KNOW I have a set of steps to undertake that are always the same. Maybe you could incorporate your bf into your own steps?
As for heavy sleeping, all I can say is that your mind, body, and soul all need rest, and that sleeping deeply could be a gift, not a curse. Of course it feels like one when we miss important things, but hopefully we can forgive ourselves for getting extra rest when there aren't any pressing obligations.
Much love,
M
I used to have anxiety dreams/nightmares constantly. I still get them once or twice a month. Like waking up and immediately thinking, "Thank GOD that was not real!"
I love good rituals. Even when I've had a nightmare, I KNOW I have a set of steps to undertake that are always the same. Maybe you could incorporate your bf into your own steps?
As for heavy sleeping, all I can say is that your mind, body, and soul all need rest, and that sleeping deeply could be a gift, not a curse. Of course it feels like one when we miss important things, but hopefully we can forgive ourselves for getting extra rest when there aren't any pressing obligations.
Much love,
M
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