Quote from: Three Roses on February 18, 2017, 04:17:00 AM
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Ok.
That's the thumbs up I needed, thank you Three Roses.
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Quote from: sanmagic7 on February 16, 2017, 09:03:42 PM
the idea that you posted here, asked for help, considered suggestions, and are willing to give it a go, have already started - yeah, i'd say you're making progress! yay for you!
Quote from: joyful on February 16, 2017, 04:08:11 PM
I hope it goes well with you and your wife.
Quote from: sanmagic7 on February 16, 2017, 12:54:33 AM
martin, perhaps one of the ways to figure it out is to ask her. i get that thing about not being able to read cues from others, so i ask a lot of questions. it has sometimes driven my hub wild, but i tell him that i can't know unless i ask. conversation, dialogue, questioning can bring the two of you closer together.
Quote from: sanmagic7 on February 16, 2017, 12:54:33 AM
...no, she probably can never understand fully, but if she gets educated, and if you find out what's going on with her, perhaps some progress can be made. small steps, my friend. this is a process, and won't be figured out all at once.
i do so wish you the best with this, and hope you can at least make a start. sometimes that's all that's needed to get the ball rolling.
Quote from: Candid on February 15, 2017, 02:28:20 PM
We're not making excuses for 'bad' behaviour, we genuinely need someone IRL to understand. When the majority of 'therapists' still don't, can we expect more from our partners?
Quote from: sanmagic7 on February 14, 2017, 12:46:06 AM
i believe you'll be able to figure this out, you know best the dynamics between you and your wife, what she might be willing to do or not, what she might be open to...
Quote from: sanmagic7 on February 13, 2017, 02:49:05 AM
...that's when he first accepted that this was a real thing.
Quote from: sanmagic7 on February 13, 2017, 02:49:05 AM
...bit by bit, step by step, it's sure better than it was.
Quote from: Three Roses on February 12, 2017, 08:41:04 PM
Will she read a book about it? The book "The Body Keeps The Score" was VERY helpful to me in understanding myself and this disorder.
My husband tries to understand but I can see from some of his comments that he gets it intellectually but not completely. It seems he still thinks it's something that will go away if I just learn to put it behind me.
Quote from: sanmagic7 on February 05, 2017, 11:40:14 PM
love them! they felt great! thanks, martin 68. feeling better today, calmer. i hope you are, too.
Quote from: Kizzie on February 06, 2017, 04:10:48 PM
for you Martin and for you San.
I hope today is a better day for you both
Quote from: Butterfly66 on February 05, 2017, 05:27:26 PM
Hello
I have signed in and not received any replies to my post, not sure what the feelings are but they don't feel good. Can someone say hello and respond even if you cant relate. If there is anyone out there that can relate, please could you respond too?
Butterfly 66
Quote from: sanmagic7 on February 03, 2017, 11:30:44 PM
no, it isn't. i hear ya. i'm in the middle of some of that myself right now. ugh!
ever onward. big hug!
Quote from: sanmagic7 on February 05, 2017, 04:32:21 PM
martin68, i'm just glad, after all these months of waiting, that you're finally going to get in to see someone. i hope it's a good fit and that you have a helping and healing experience.
Quote from: woodsgnome on February 05, 2017, 04:28:57 PM
This thread speaks volumes about the difficulty of re-orienting...
Quote...Not to mention the redundant "and why were you like that" retort. Funny if it weren't so utterly inane.I know... and "how did it make you feel", well not great obviously!
Quote...Best to all on this thread; I hope you receive the consideration you deserve.