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General Discussion / Re: Is therapy worth the money?
June 10, 2016, 04:03:04 PM
I am brand new to the site and thIs is a wonderful question!
I have been going to therapy off and on for about 15 years. I have had at least five, and what has been said here is correct. There are good ones and bad ones. Finding "the right one" can be difficult. My last one was- well, not so good. The one before (I had to stop because she was $150 a week but was worth every penny) was the best I had of all of them! Very insightful, incredibly educated (Masters in both clinical and developmental and a doctorate) and very, very experienced.
However, what she did was NOT "normal" therapy. Over the years she has decided that the - what -practice? of something called EFT (Emotional Feelings Therapy -sounds crazy, doesn't it? It isn't.) would be something she wanted to do. It was an amazing experience. I hope to be able one day to return to her. It (and she) were incredible. She even taught me to do it myself. She is also the person who said - flatly -C-PTSD was an issue for me. I can't believe the others didn't see that. I had an abusive, personality disordered mother, was sexually abused, have eating disorders (make that "was formerly participating in") etc. etc. * of a childhood.
I think, like anyone else, the good ones find things they like and use and stick with them, so what they offer may just not work for you. That's not you doing something wrong. It's just what they do.
So you don't have to do particularly anything, I don't think, just find what might work for you. And you may be able to at a price you can afford.
There were things the last therapist did that were good, the just weren't the majority of her practices. She also was quite narcissistic, which I think kept her from being very insightful (which is important).
Best of luck. Therapists can help immensely -or not help much at all. Just keep looking until you find the right one.
I have been going to therapy off and on for about 15 years. I have had at least five, and what has been said here is correct. There are good ones and bad ones. Finding "the right one" can be difficult. My last one was- well, not so good. The one before (I had to stop because she was $150 a week but was worth every penny) was the best I had of all of them! Very insightful, incredibly educated (Masters in both clinical and developmental and a doctorate) and very, very experienced.
However, what she did was NOT "normal" therapy. Over the years she has decided that the - what -practice? of something called EFT (Emotional Feelings Therapy -sounds crazy, doesn't it? It isn't.) would be something she wanted to do. It was an amazing experience. I hope to be able one day to return to her. It (and she) were incredible. She even taught me to do it myself. She is also the person who said - flatly -C-PTSD was an issue for me. I can't believe the others didn't see that. I had an abusive, personality disordered mother, was sexually abused, have eating disorders (make that "was formerly participating in") etc. etc. * of a childhood.
I think, like anyone else, the good ones find things they like and use and stick with them, so what they offer may just not work for you. That's not you doing something wrong. It's just what they do.
So you don't have to do particularly anything, I don't think, just find what might work for you. And you may be able to at a price you can afford.
There were things the last therapist did that were good, the just weren't the majority of her practices. She also was quite narcissistic, which I think kept her from being very insightful (which is important).
Best of luck. Therapists can help immensely -or not help much at all. Just keep looking until you find the right one.
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