Hello, I too am one of those rare survivors that am married (happily). I have been in counselling for roughly 10 years. At times it hurts so bad that I don't think I will be able to move on - but that is your brain starting heal itself. It does get better - it never goes away but gets better - more manageable. I am a lot less angry than what I was 10 years ago. It takes time - and finding a professional to talk to is a great start.
Good luck on your long journey.
Good luck on your long journey.